happy or not?
By MYLOOT
@MYLOOT (5)
Malaysia
3 responses
@oarnamav (2708)
• India
19 Mar 07
You have to have a proper and practical defination of happiness in your life, then only you can measure this happiness in a correct way.
Because this defination differs from person to person.
The happiness in general is state of mind as the saying goes about this.
When you have open heart for others arround you then the happiness can be shared with them to feel it happily.
One more saying is "The happiness gets doubled when shared with somebody and PAIN reduces to half if shared by somebody. So my friend do not try to conclude the depth of water by standing on the river bank, instead better dare to jump into the river swep your limbs and then come back to tell me how you felt while in the water.
I mean the swimming as the happiness can be extracted if intended and you don't sink in the pain of life if you can keep yourself floating on to the water of happiness in the married life. If you fail to do so you are likly to sink under the married life water. OK?
All the best and a haapy married life to you.
oarnamav.
@MYLOOT (5)
• Malaysia
22 Mar 07
Thanks to oarnamay for giving me a nice piece of opinion. Well actually I have jumped in the water but I didn't swim good enough to stay afloat and my marriage failed. Since, I'll be getting married again, I'll make sure to swim to the best of my ability and keep myself afloat all the time. Thanks friend.
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@oarnamav (2708)
• India
22 Mar 07
Thanks for reading my response and marking it as a best response.
As you are going for second attempt, I would like to add some tips for to be happy in your married life.
Please do not implement and enforce your likings, requirments, desires and discipline on to your spouse atleast for first five years till you have a child in the lap.
When a child comes to your home your married life's defination takes some ground, and on the first birthday of your child you would tell your spouce what you like & love in life, how you respect the discipline, what favorite dish you like most and so on....
I am sure one who allows the opponent to play first or allows the opponant to start the game is a real sportsman and normally rules for ever the future life.
Try this I am sure you will experience a happy married life.
All the best from oarnamav.
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@shila07 (514)
• Bhutan
19 Mar 07
People get married to find a sould mate who would be there for all the time, when ups and downs. I have experienced that, when ever there is ups and downs, only our spouse come forward to help us, be ther with us all the time.Its true that after beng married, iam always happy that my husband is with me when ever i need. my husband is the most understanding person in life.My married life is so happy and enjoyable ever.
You are completely wrong. You know we will be happy after getting married. LIfe will be so lovable after marriage. DO donot feel insecure about it.
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@gwendovere (1279)
• United States
4 Apr 07
No, I would say that I'm not really happy with my marriage. This is my second marriage, and I have tried desperately to make things work (both times, actually). But even so, the promises that my spouse made have basically all been broken. After 8 months of marriage, he *still* has not found a job. He did have to move a long distance to be with me, but that's a long time to just sit around and do nothing. He doesn't have an income, doesn't cook or clean, basically just sits around and watches TV or sleeps all the time. This is not what I thought or hoped it would be like. I am the only one who works or who provides for our family. And I can't get him to do anything! Half the time, I can't even get him to get out of bed.
I hope things will be better for you. As for me, I don't really know what I can do to change things. Every time I ask him how the job search is going, he gets mad or leaves the room ~ or worse yet, leaves the house for hours and doesn't even bother to tell me where he's going. It has been a nightmare.
