Somebody to Understand..."my husband"

first of all, i think that it's just normal to be in an adjustment period even if it's just 2 years. the idea that i'm holding onto is that, even we--ourselves, don't know our selves fully and completely. second, what do u mean by doing the right? what things are you doing? i believe that there are certain aspects of ourselves that doesn't need to be "agreed" to. i mean, i understand why you would want to please him, but don't be over paranoid about just pleasing him. just be yourself. third, i can sense that you're talking but not communicating really. think of ways that would make him open up, you don't need to be direct in order to know what he wants and not.. or better yet, ask his friends or relatives, it could work. best wishes.

As they say, you won't really know the person's true colors unless you lived with him.. But I think you just need to adjust to each other but you could try to open this up to him so that he will also be aware of the situation.. :)I do hope everything will be ok for you two then, getting into marriage life as they say is hard but that's our choice..

You two should hav adjuste by now its high time. what do you mean he does not speak to you gently. You are no kid that you he should be scolding youfor your mistakes. I feel it in me that you are hiding something and need help in a big way. Are you being emotionally abused. absuer need not be only physical. talk to your frioends on this forum , we can talk in private if you wish to share something more. soemtimes it helps just to talk to someone who understands. may be your parents can help you. if you need help seek help. you are the best person who can help yourself,

I guess communication is one of the ways to improve the relationship. Talk to each other , share your thoughts together, and talk about what kind of life both of you want to be, but not just the way he wants to be. The life is about both of you, so you two should discuss it, isn't it? It's hard to understand someone, it's hard to understand yourself too, through the communication, both of you can help to understand each other better. Good luck to you! ^_^

Its too early to start feeling like this. you need ten years to adjust to yourselves. take it easy, your husband loves you. get to know his temperamental traints and yours and how they blend, perhaps it will help you.

What the real score between you and your husband? Well all things that's happening in your married life can get a solution just to work things out together... You know, being open with each other is the most wonderful solution and being happy together. Have a nice day ahead

If there are things happening in the marrige, you should sit with hubbie and talk about it. And communication and working together are best to solving why things are the way they are and how to make it better. best of luck.

hello wishiel,I would really like to help you but you are not giving us much information here.What is your husband doing that you do not understand?i need a lot more information on how he is acting? what he is doing? how does he talk to you? it seems that he must be not being nice..After 2 years you should be fully ajusted by now...I will check back here and see what you have answered and maybe i can help you..