Would you Rather: Have a permanent crush on someone you know...

Love and positive emotions are always worth it. Being an adult leads us to that door often enough that when we become careless we get hurt. As long as we don't let those emotions run all over us we do not have anything to worry about either. Much rather to have loved someone that to not love at all. Great friendship can be borne of situations like this.

That is a really tough one because either way someone is going to suffer. I guess I'd rather suffer myself than have someone else be in pain. Either way it's a lose - lose situation.

Things that make you go hmmmmmm. Well I think that I would rather have someone have a crush on me for a change. I remember having crushes on guys and even though I was single, nothing became of the crushes. It is high time that the tables were turned. I think I like that idea!

I would much rather be the one that has a crush on someone and no ever knows it. It would be easy to keep things to myself when I just know about it. Where if I knew someone else had a crush on me, it would make me uncomfortable.

Hmmmm...that is pretty hard. I am responding not reading anyones response. So, let's see if I think like everyone else. I would probably, rather have someone else have a permanent crush on me, and I not know about it. :) I think that it would be hard if someone had a permanent crush on someone and it not going anywhere. Unless, like you said you are really great friends or in a committed relationship. Being very great friends and having a crush on them would be very ackward...especially if they knew about it. I don't know though, really. That is just my opinion until I read others responses.

I would rather have someone have a permanent crush on me and I know it rather having a permanent crush on someone and I couldn’t do anything about it. If you have a crush on someone and the relationship didn’t blossom into something special, that would really be hurtful on my part. And it’s really difficult to constrain your feelings for someone. And it’s more difficult because you can’t control the situation. The one you have crush with has total control of the situation so no matter what you do, if the other person doesn’t reciprocate your feelings back, then there is really nothing you can do. While if somebody has crush on you, it’s a more exciting feeling and can even help you boost your ego or feel good about yourself. Plus you have the total control of the situation. So it would really be up to you to reciprocate the feelings back or not.

I would rather have a crush on someone I know because eventually I would muster up the guts to say something to them and see if we could start a relationship and if not the way I look at it "nothing ventured nothing gained."

In the past I've always had crushes on the wrong people, and unrequited love etc.. I knew someone at work and I had a real crush on them and their partner was working in the same office, so it was doubly difficult. No one has ever had a crush on me so I've had no worries there. I'm not a person who is easily crushable LOL.

I would rather have the crush so my feelings would be hurt instead of someone elses.

Of course it's better that someone had a crush on me. If she's also my crush, great! If not, then it creates an awkward atmosphere between us. It really does tend to destroy the friendship. But I would still prefer to know so that I can decide if we have a chance at a relationship or not. When I was a student I found it really difficult to let my crush know how I feel about her. I'm really the shy type. But now that I'm more mature I think I'm improving. I'm better able to reveal my feelings. It's just that I wait for the right time to do so.

I met a couple sometime ago. Young enough to be my grandshildren. I liked her immensely- but when I met her husband I thought he was absolutely adorable. He was pierced and tatted and looked like a skinhead-BUT he was so tender and sweet to their daughter I was smitten. I made no bones about it, he got my best smile, and I told her I love you two- but he knew that the sight of him always gave me a major lift. When we would see each other in public he'd make a big show of flirting with me (a joking kind of affection) and I would flirt right back. It was a sweet grace note in a friendship. then I overheard her one day talking about me that it was sickening that I didn't know how to be my age, etc. I avoided him after that, and felt sad. There was nothing there that was wrong at all. I have found it uncomfortable when someone I don't want to be involved with has a crush on me. I don't want to hurt anyone but it can get uncomfortable. Did you ever see the Cary Grant, Myrna Loy movie Mr Blandings builds a Dram House? In it, Melvyn douglas has a crush on Loy, and Grant is her husband. Its a real crush but they acknowledge it in the lightest way until a storm leaves Douglas stranded at their house with her, and Grant stranded in town.

Both ways are tough. To have a crush for someone and knowing its not going to go anywhere, seems like an eternity of wait. This type of crush actually locks up the heart. You keep carrying on the candle and hope that it will burn on. To have people getting a crush on you and you don't know or pretend not to know about it is like acting blur. So this time someone else is in the shoe of the eternal wait. haha. I think the waiting for a person you have a crush on has more value attached to it. Its more personal. If people have a crush on me, its easier to brush off, as its not my choice.

I'd rather they have a crush on me. I hate having a crush that I can't do anything about, so I wouldn't want that ever again!! I'd feel bad and try to be a good friend to the person who had a crush on me, but make the boundaries clear.

Its just a game of life and its most common part of story which comes across in life.look if that was the case first of all i'm not that kind of person who gives it up so easily. actually too had crush on one girl before me one many had already proposed her and one was very close to her.despite this i proposed her made her love me.most difficult part in this was that she did not know me and i was completly new to her and she was completly opposite to love.now u might know how tough i'm and i wont give up things so easily. and coming to other part if some one realy had crush on me i would straight away say er to try me in my next re-birth as i'm very straight forward to anyone conclusion is if i get crush on any i wont hids and i wont stop trying.and if any had crush on me i wont accept it until i like her

Neither way is good, stay away and con't get hooked by it.

I'd rather someone else have a crush on me because I'm not the kind of person to freak out about that, and I wouldn't push that person away. Plus I think it's a lot harder to be the one with the crush knowing that nothing will become of it.

I'm kind of in this situation. My good activist friend is in love with me. This is bad because I don't see him like that at all and we can't be friends anymore because of it. I can be his friend, but he cannot be appropriate and whenever I go to where he works, he makes a big fuss over me and it's embarrassing. I wish he would stop liking me and we would be friends again. I've gone so far as to try to set him up with people I thought would be appropriate for him. The other choice also doesn't sound tolerable to me. I think that would just be daily agony. In this case, I would have to say, I would rather neither because both sides present serious problems to my emotional well being.

I would rather have someone have a crush on me and know about it. I wouldn't want to have to live with that constant pain of unrequittted love everyday of my life. I hope that I am never in either situation though!

Well, since i'm in a permanent relationship (i'm engaged to my partner) any crushes i have would never come to anything or lead anywhere as i would never give my partner up for anyone. I do actually have a couple of crushes at the moment, thought they are crushes based on physical attraction only. I'd be very flattered is somone had a crush on me, other than my partner i don't think it's happened many times in my life! certainly not that i know of anyway. I'm not sure which i'd prefer. Becuase i love my partner so much i find it easy to deal with having crushes, becuase i know they aren't serious, they've frivolous things. If someone had a crush on me and i knew about it i think i'd also be able to handle it well, so really i'd be able to cope with either i think!

I would have have someone else have a permanent crush on me. I've already been in a situation where I've had a crush on someone and they were not interested in me. I'm over him now, but I'd hate to go through that for my entire life. I wouldn't want to have a permanent crush on someone and have it go nowhere. If someone has a crush on me and I know it, I think it might be easier to handle. Maybe eventually, I would develop mutual feelings for them. Or if I don't, as long as it isn't a stalker, I wouldn't mind