Desperate or devoted?

United States
March 19, 2007 7:38pm CST
You just got married, everything is going pretty good. About a year later you started getting calls from women claiming to be the lover of your husband. You never confront the husband but you follow-up with calls from his cell-phone with titles like: "Pumping Pam" "Heidi Head lover" "Money making Melissa" You pretend that you don't know what's going on, until one day at the door a knock on the door from a woman claiming to be carrying his child. After a paternity test is established and results are negative, he confesses to all and says he'll never cheat again. You love your husband and want things to workout and a couple months later he starts over again, and this time brings one of the women home and asked you to join, and how he has spent all this time trying to find the right girl for his wife. What the hell? What would you do?
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SageMother
@SageMother (2277)
• United States
20 Mar 07
Assuming the wide had not agreed to an open marriage I think divorce is in order. Another option would be to explain that you are totally capable of finding outside entertainment and you won't participate in anything he set up because he is thinking of himself and not your preferences. I wold be sure that no extramarital activities took place in the home though. Also, he would have to get sterilized so that no money would ever leave the home to support a child born out of one of his little adventures. Since all these things cost money, I would have control of the bank accounts. He would have to ask for money to go out to have his fun. This means he would probably have to get a second job so that he could avoid asking, which would cut back on his free time.
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sarahcaitlin
@sarahcaitlin (132)
• Canada
20 Mar 07
Wow, I hope this is just a hypothetical question. If it's not, I am so sorry. First of all, I would confront my husband after that first girl called. My boyfriend...fiance...back to boyfriend and I have been through alot of sh*t and I confront him about ANYTHING that looks the littlest suspicious. If this is a real situation I would drop him like a hot potato. Once a cheater, always a cheater. If he wanted to have a threesome with you he should have talked to you about it and both of you should have made the decision to find the girl. He is just using this as an excuse. That is truly wrong, you deserve better.