most important characteristic in a partner--IT'S SHOCKING!!!
By crispystuff
@crispystuff (404)
United States
March 19, 2007 7:45pm CST
I am just shocked!!!! I have many many single friends and they are always talking about how they have a hard time meeting someone which they connect with, and when they do, the other person doesn't seem as interested. So, I started asking them one single, yet very important question...."what is the most important characteristic for you in a partner". I am just shocked at the answer given over and over again as being so incredibly shallow! For example, over and over again, I hear, "tall" or "handsome" or "brown hair", etc. Not one person I have asked has had the initial answer be something like "nice" or "honest" or "responsible"---Perhaps this is the reason that they find themselves having a hard time sustaining a relationship. I am just so surprised.
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@brckoba (795)
• United States
20 Mar 07
You know what, you are so right! The only way we may be able to have a meaningful relationship is when we go beyond our shallowness and start thinking about what truly matters in a relationship. Looks are not that important because they will fade with time. I'm not saying that they have to go with the ugliest person they see, but that even if the person lacks one of the characteristics they are looking for they should give them a chance to get to know them. After all, what is important is the love and honesty in a relationship.
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@sumofalltears (3988)
• United States
20 Mar 07
Such superficial responses means the person does not have the ability to look below the surface to the real person. The best parts are always whats under the wrapper, and if you can't get past the wrapper you will never have a relationship worth sustaining. The best and most long lasting relationship involve the mind and soul as well as everything physical. Because we are human we all have character flaws as well as physical flaws and using our intelligence in relationships allows us to deal with flaws and not let the flaws deal with you.
