why do people have to be so abusive?

Honestly, I can not spend a day away from mylot without missing something? How can anyone be nasty to your Mum, she is the sweetest, kindest person. I am an old bat and can take the abuse but she is too sweet. I think some people join mylot, in the same way as some people join forums, just to be as nasty as possible and drag down what is a fun site for most people. I joined mylot because I was so sick of this sort of thing occurring in chatrooms. The only thing I can suggest is that you make a note of the ones being nasty and avoid them like the pestilence they are. Cheer up Chook and keep enjoying Mylot :-)

Some people just cannot help themselves but be bossy and opinionated, sure have an opinion, defend it but do not abuse the person who disagrees with you. Childish bullying should be outlawed here. Your mum was ready to quit mylot yesterday, and I know others who've felt the same, I took a break at one point partly due to evil people. We should be able to talk about things that matter to us in an honest way or what is the point? I'm so sorrry this has upset you, it upset me too. Unfortunatley we have to learn to report this kind of behaviour and avoid the people acting badly where possible. I know I would never have an angry abusive person on my friend list.

Oh I don't understand these people either why are they so nasty but you know the world is full of all different kinds of people and some of them unfortunately find it fun and nice to have a go at others but your Mum, is a beautiful woman and she has a lot of very valuable friends here Mel, which when we have these kind of friends whatever they say should not affect us that badly as they will end up down the drain.

I think a lot of people come off strong and are hurtful. Some people probably don't care. :( Im sorry that people were hurtful towards your mom..

Mel I think these people should be pities as there is obviously something missing in their own lives that they have to treat people in this manner! The rest of us are here to enjoy ourselves and I am beginning to think we just ignore people like these 2 sad men - they do not even have the maturity to apologise when they have done wrong! Have fun with your mum honey xxx

You are so right Hon and I know your Mum appreciated you.She is a special person and has taken on the job of being my personal angel.He knows now and I'm sure he will be nicer now. Hugs R

The turkey is probably trying to get himself in a position where he is banned from the site & ended up forfeiting his earnings. Who is it? It's most likely against MyLot rules to actually name this guy, but I'm sure it's OK to post a URL to a discussion he started.

of cource I would stick by mum and your right we should all stick together and he should be run out if he cant come up for a god reason for doing this to your mum

Hi Mel I do agree with you on the that. Your mom told me about that guy finfinder and I thought he really had some nerve. I told your mom not to worry about him but she did tell how she felt so thats good. I really dont know why people are getting so nasty here.

Mel, I've been away from myLot and have no idea what's been going on, but it is totally inconceivable that anyone would be abusive to your mum! She is the sweetest person out! I daresay whoever it was soon found out he'd made a mistake, stirring up a real hornet's nest of Gab's supporters. As I've told you before, you are so fortunate to have such a great mum - but I don't need to tell you, because you already know!

it seems they are not happy in their own life, or why would someone be so rude to your mom? she is such a lovely, nice, and lots more person. i could write a book about her lol its sad that this happens allover the net. only because its anonymus that doesnt mean to do such bad things. im glad your mum and all of the nice people here have good friends and we all are like a big family and help each other.

The point is a psycho disorder. If a person a lot of words for abusing, there are two reasons. One is a reaction of any experience or impression that wounded him by the abused and the other his unsatisfied desire. In the latter case, by abusing words, he calms down. There is an old saying that 'donkeys calms down by crying'. You can respond in two ways also. One is never react from your side and the other, print some posters and stick all along his neighbourhood roads/paths (be aware of cost). Certainly, the abuser has no alternative but to stop it. I have had such experience since 1995 till last year when I had done so by drawing in newspapers and sticking on his/her walls to show to the road. (There are 2 types of this - one his bad sides and the other 'my bad side as he/she says'.(honest)

Good question! I think abusive people are angry and this site is a nice, anonymous place to let off steam. Too sad, because it really messes things up, doesn't it? Love your avatar!

That is a good question, and I have found that the internet makes a terrific forum for these rabble rousers. There will always be the dissenters for the sake of dissenting....people that just plain like to argue, and the anonimity of the internet provides a perfect forum and release. They do not have to be accountable for their actions so they just let it all go. Best thing to do is to understand it is not a personal attack just a way of gaining attention.

I know of people in real life here who are quarrelsome, easily offended and mean. They don't come from loving homes. They are quick to hurt others. I don't like it that whoever has hurt your mom and her friend.

Thank you my Darling and yes it did upset me yesterday and even more because it had upset Ray that I was attacked on her Discussion it was not her Fault. And yes I am so lucky to have all these lovely Friends to support me to and of course you my Love. Love you tons xxx

Some people just don't realize how the written word can 'sound' online or how harsh their words can be. Other people just like to hide behind the anonymity that the Internet can provide.

Abusive people get a kick out of the power they think they have over other people. Really, they're just showing what pathetic souls they really are, and we should pity them for not having their own lives to lead. I've found a lot of times that people who bully and abuse others are the ones who have insecurity issues and so they try to wield power over others to make them feel bigger and better about themselves. It's sad that they think this is good. It's more like an addiction, and they need more power in order to satisfy that power trip. I'm sorry that your mother and others have had to suffer on Mylot at the hands of these pathetic people. You'd think with this being a place where friends and fellow members stick together that they'd know better. Unfortunately, they don't seem to care.

most ppl who abuse are either insecure about themselves or take out anger at being failures on others...so don't take it too seriously../cuz they suck!

I don't know why they have to be so rude and mean. To be honest i was kinda scared to sign up for mylot because the last place I signed up everytime I wrote something I got nasty comments back. I so glad the people I have gotten responses from are sweet and sometimes really really funny.