how do build your confidence back?

i want to share this with you, hope it makes you feel better: "If your self-esteem falls overboard, throw out a rescue line. Pull yourself back together. Don't be your own critic, be your best ally. We will always encounter challenges that make us feel less than we really are. What matters is that we can pick ourselves up. The darkest hour is the best time to see the stars. It is when life seems most harsh & painful that the most wonderful blessings arrive." --anonymous

I would say.. JUST DO IT! Exactly, use Nike's motto as it is. If you want to feel capable again of having a good job, then go ahead and apply for a job, get it and start working. Smile and be confident and you will find that you *are* capable after all! ;-)

Yes I have but do you know if you work on it you can do it I did. I know I still feel useless at times but I am never able to work again because of my Illness so there is times I go back to the lack of Confidence. But you will be fine just keep telling yourself that you can do it and you will do it Good luck to you

I would suggest you go to a temporary agency. That way you can get small jobs and build yourself up. I bought a house once as a temporary worker since I was at one place for 3 years. They kept extending me. I wish you luck since the ability to work is a good one and one that if something were to happen to hubby you could go and support yourself. Good luck!

I'm not sure either how to be self confident. I have never been confident about anything all of my life. I really feel sorry for you too though since you say you once had confidence in yourself. I think you still have it and just need to get out there and show it. You can do it. Don't let others tell you anything different. I know I have been told all of my life that I wouldn't be anything and that I am not anything by other people. I sure have come along way in life but I still am not proud of myself at all.