What do you call the male in an affair?

@sunshine4 (8703)
United States
March 20, 2007 7:48am CST
So 2 people have an affair. They are both married. The spouses find out. The woman in the affair is now a wh*re, what is the man.....a lucky SOB? Seriously, why does all the negative get put on the woman?
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caribe
@caribe (2465)
• United States
21 Mar 07
The Bible calls him a "wh*remonger. I would probably call him much worse than that. You are right though. Society puts the negative on the woman and the man is macho or a stud.
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sunshine4
@sunshine4 (8703)
• United States
21 Mar 07
I didn't know that. Thanks for the info on what he is called in the Bible. It's true that society puts the blame on the woman when their should be equal blame.
danishcanadian
@danishcanadian (28953)
• Canada
27 Mar 07
In more diplomatic circles the woman is called his mistress, but you are right. Even then, there is no name for the man in the affair. I've also wondered why this is the case.
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sarah22
@sarah22 (3979)
• United States
20 Mar 07
yes he would be a SOB but i would not call him lucky as he has just trown all his family. and as for her, she would be a home recker.
danishcanadian
@danishcanadian (28953)
• Canada
27 Mar 07
HE would also be a homewrecker, because maybe the woman was also married!!
angel_eyes88
@angel_eyes88 (181)
• India
20 Mar 07
A SOB ofcourse!!! And what i think is, the man is equally responsible for an extra-marital affair as the woman. But when, a wife comes to know about her husband having an affair with someone, she blames the woman and not her husband. This is maybe, because of the fact that she loves her man a lot and does not want to admit it that he has betrayed him. Whatsoever it is, but it is ridiculous to forgive the man and curse the second-woman.
sunitpanna
@sunitpanna (2)
• India
20 Mar 07
so it mean that the woman is encouraging to the man for doing the worst thing in the relationship without realising the facts.........im pity on that type of women..GOD save their relationship.....
sunshine4
@sunshine4 (8703)
• United States
20 Mar 07
I think that both have accepted what they have done and apologized to their spouses and the others spouse. They blame should be on the two of them equally, but in this situation, the woman seems to be the bad guy and the man is off the hook.
mom_of_2
@mom_of_2 (398)
• Canada
28 Mar 07
I think its easier to put blame on a stranger rather than on someone you love. I personally would he harder on the man. The husband knows hes married...perhaps the girlfriends didn't. Even if she did know the truth I think its the husband who ruined the marriage...he took vows to his wife, it not the "other woman" breaking a promise. There always seems to be a double standerd between men and woman. If a woman sleeps around she is a sl&t, but a man is a st&d.
sunshine4
@sunshine4 (8703)
• United States
28 Mar 07
It seems that the negative always goes on the woman. Like she is the one who tempted him or something. I think that the men are more likely to initiate an affair~ but the negative names get placed on the female.