Why don't they see?...Don't they love me?

So many people just don't understand real depression! Sometimes it's because they are too afraid, sometimes because they underestimate the chemical nature of the beast. Men typically want to "fix" things, and when they can't they minimize or ignore the problem. They DO care, they just don't know what to do and are unable to admit that. There IS help out there for you. PLEASE try to get some NOW!! Call a local health care clinic, they'll be able to put you in touch with a qualified therapist. Your regular doctor should be able to help with this too. Many clinics have a sliding scale fee, so don't let money hold you back. You're in a place where you may need medication to break out of your dark hole, but you'll get your life back, so it's worth it! In talking with a therapist you'll find new ways to explain to your men exactly what you've been going through and what you need from them to help you. This really can be caused by chemical imbalances, not your attitude. Depression is like having diabetes -- insulin (medication) may be needed to keep it under control. Go for it! You'll feel better just taking action. Good luck and keep in touch to let us know how things are going . . . but don't wait another day -- make a 'phone call right now. Be your own best friend and take care of yourself!!

Maybe they dont want to see it. They may need you to talk about it because they may be afraid to approach you about it. My grandfather was that way when I was going through a depression period. I had to literally say "I am Depressed, I need YOUR help" for him to see it. Maybe you should try this and see if it helps. Just by helping the people around you to become aware of your condition helps you become aware of things you may not have noticed. You may want to consult a doctor, as depression can sometimes be only the surface of the problem. I understand that you are probably not going to want to take the innitiative in getting better but you HAVE to. Even if you just begin the process by taking a small walk everyday...start out just going around the block. It's going to take a while but when you finally see those rays of sunshine you will be much better and soooo much happier!!!! Best of luck and if you need any more advice from a depression surviver or you just want to chat add me as a friend!

Hi sexymom,guess what we are going to the same pace of life right now,with regards to whats happening to you.But I do take a bath a lot!=) (just a little joke) but yes,I'm suffering the same condition..It's really weird but I try to fight it..I remember just being on bed for the whole wk.it's crazy!!Nowadays what I do is fight that feeling of sadness or depression,I try to change what's in my mind and I pray harder,it does work..I dont want to spend my life feeling sorry for myself,life is too short not to enjoy every minute of it(that's what I usually tell myself now),and when it comes to my family,they do ignore the situation but thats ok with me,cause I dont want them to feel sorry for me and not to bother thinking of my situation cause it's a burden..but that depends on one's situation..But medically speaking,yes sometimes that is a hormonal problem.

The easiest thing to do about your situation is to lay there in a ball hoping to die but that's certainly not what you SHOULD do. You are the only person that can do something about this. I understand depression because I was there, for a LONG LONG time. I sat around waiting for someone to notice and then try to make it better. The truth is, my husband just thought I was lazy. He's never experienced depression and therefore does not understand it in the slightest bit. If he doesn't understand it, how can I rely on him for support and how can I be upset with him for not noticing? Right? I don't want you to be discouraged. I'm not trying to tell you that you can't rely on your husband for support. But if he has never experienced what you're feeling, than he may not be the best person to help you. Don't worry about your husband and your father not noticing what you're going through. They are ignorant to this disease and they don't know any better. First you need to realize that this IS a chemical imbalance happening in your body and it's not your fault. (Nor is it your husband's fault so take it easy.) Seek help from a doctor. You may require medication to help you through this and believe me, medication can be a blessing. One more piece of advice - Check with your ob/gyn too. This could be hormone-related. I went to mine and she discovered that I have a vitamin B deficiency which is the root of my problem. Once I fixed that problem, the depression was gone shortly after. Good luck to you and please keep us updated.