What is your breaking point?

I only had one child and it about drove me crazy. I do not have patience when it comes to a child crying or not minding. I brought her home from the hospital when I first had her and she slept all night the first night. Then, for the next two weeks, she cried night and day. I sat up with her, burping and feeding and rocking here. I was hoping she would finally go to sleep. She would no more than go to sleep and as soon as I laid her down she would wake up and start it again. I was about ready to pull my hair out. After that she finally got a sleep schedule down good enough for me to be able to get a little bit of rest. My stitches had ripped and I had a hard time sitting down or standing up with her, which made it worse. I had no idea that was what had happened until I went back to the doctor for my checkup. I have many times wanted to walk away from her and scream. It just wears you totally out.

YES!!! and i only have one. lol. i feel sorry for you. oh my goodness yes, there are times that i have to get him to go to bed early because he has been "difficult" all day. there are some days that he wakes up in a bad mood and nothing i do can keep him happy. so i have to deal with his whines and cries until it is a decent hour to put him to bed. i also cherish nap time on those days. i am 36 weeks preggo, so my fuse runs a little short these days. i am frustrated with being sooo big and heavy and having to move so slow. i feel so guilty sometimes becuase i dont know if i am over reacting, BUT i have to have some quiet time alone. i think i would go crazy if i couldnt have at least an hour to myself. i get scolded by my mom for being selfish. :( but i feel that i am a better mom to him by geting this little break.

i have been having a lot of stress lately from work, from home, and from our finances and i really do sometimes would want to scream to release what i feel. i have a daughter who is really cranky and really naughty. whenever she does not get what she wants, she would really cry aloud and scream. it would really be difficult for us to pacify her and would really have to give what she wants in order for her to stop. sometimes, i let my husband do the talking with her because i am so tired at work and then when i get home, i am faced with that kind of situation. patience is really essential when you have kids.

All I can say is welcome to the wonderful world of parenting! Every parent goes through this at some point. Some react differently and do terrible things while others just remove themselves from a hairy situation and relax for a minute or two. Here my kids didn't cry alot when they were young....I am thankful for that. When they did cry something was wrong not just whining...whew. Sometimes your best bet when your feeling frustrated is to just let them cry as long as they are not hurt or in danger....they will stop. It aggravating....but better than over-reacting!

Don't feel bad. You're just being human and we all need time to ourselves and children just don't understand that. The fact that they fell right to sleep says that they probably needed a break, too. Just enjoy your time to yourself and next time don't let it get to the frustration point. I think you should make arrangements to have at least a few minutes of each day to yourself. If you have a family member or neighbor who would be willing to watch the kids for 30 minutes to an hour each day so you can have a little "me" time, I think you and your kids would be much happier. Of course, you may need to work out some compromise with whomever watches the kids. Maybe they need a break or some sort of favor that you guys could find to be an equitable situation. I hope that helps you.

My favorite hiding spot is in the garage. If things get crazy, I just make sure everyone is safe then go there for a few minutes. I finally have gotten 2 days to myself, as my youngest is in 2 full days of preschool. It'g great. I can go grocery shopping, get errands done without kids, etc., but as soon as 3:00 comes, I feel like I'm paying for that time...Everyone, including the dog, needs me at exactly the same time! The first 15 minutes the kids are home, it's crazy. I do feel guilty when some nights I just want to put them to bed without the books, etc. My 4 year old can tend to be clingy, but I take about 15 minutes during the day at a time and say, "This is Mommy's time. You need to play by yourself." He usually cries and tries to hang on me, but I try to stick to it. It was hard in the beginning, but it's been working. I do this after I spend about 15-30 minutes playing just with him (no cleaning up, getting coffee, etc.)I try to keep the things that he is most interested in playing with for these times (playing by himself).

It's not just kids, it's everything!! It's STRESS!!! Too much stress, regardless of where it comes from, will make people want to do that. It's an unfortunate fact of life. I hope you solve the problem really soon.

My husband would tell you I have several breaking points, and my children would probably agree. I have little patience. There have been times when I have just stood in the hallway and screamed. Terrible, I know. My second baby was colicky. She only slept for brief moments at a time. My husband wanted to stick her in the farthest reaches of the house (the basement crawl space of a four-level side-split) so we could not hear her. We would take her for late night drives. She'd fall asleep in the car but wake up as soon as we got home. My real breaking point is when the kids just refuse to listen to me. When they are fighting and they just won't stop. I lose it. Or someone gets hurt and they come crying to me. Like I'm going to sympathize when I told them a million times to stop. Kids can drive you crazy... crazy with madness and crazy with love.

Well you must understand that not every body can become perfect parents.After all they are Kids ,what they really need is to get their brains trained , so I must say that you should train their brain and give them a habbit to sleep before 8:00 or according to your self,like this you make then understand a routine which is to be maintained By "hook" or "crook" ,it really works ,infact you will be shocked to hear that I still have routine to get up and have a glass of milk and then straight towards toilet. My mother just made it a habbit for me like there where fixed timings of mine to go to bathroom and eat and sleep and Now its a habbit ..she never faced anykind of problem with us, but I guess your ones are really small but you have to face them I am not a mother but still I have some of my cousins who stay up by here and I take care of them easily like once I made a kid finish his homework in 2 hours they just need a constant concern and watch on them. But with LOVE and CARE..!You can even make a deal with them like if you finished your dinner Ill be taking you for a ride tomorrow and etc..Hope it wil be of your help.

that is so normal! i think the best thing you can do is go get away for a little bit. and when they are screaming just put in some ear plugs.. it stops you from feeling so bad, and it won't get to you so much.. walk away when you feel you cant take it anymore,,its better for you and better for them.

Oh, yes. I remember those days! I know it is little solace right now, but they will grow up and be gone in just a few years. The challenge is getting through the tough times. I hope you put yourself to bed too. Get rest where you can and don't worry about housework while the kids are sick. It will wait. And as soon as you can swing it, get someone to watch the kids for a couple of hours so you can just be you. My kids now have kids. Grandparenting is a LOT easier!!!!!

I am typing with 1 hand now, my baby is teething so i know what your feeling like. My first son screamed all the time, I literally felt like pulling my hair out and running away. I used to get some help frm my mum with him, she would take him for a few hours while I relaxed in the bath or got some sleep. Sometimes I didnt want him to come back, but he did he eventually got better. Go and scream if it makes you feel better even have a cry, but all I can say is ask for help.

Oh god yes, I think you would be inhuman if you didn't feel that way from time to time, and during some periods, A LOT of the time. I wish I had some place in the house I could hide from them, too, but they would find me!

I have those time as well.In this case, you just need an extra help even for just an hour, so you can do whatever you want to relx a bit.

Yes I get days like this myself but my kids are older and the trouble they get in is alittle worst sometimes then what smaller kids do. I find if I have little to no sleep then the littlest thing will set me off like a bomb.

Well you must understand that not every body can become perfect parents.After all they are Kids ,what they really need is to get their brains trained , so I must say that you should train their brain and give them a habbit to sleep before 8:00 or according to your self,like this you make then understand a routine which is to be maintained By "hook" or "crook" ,it really works ,infact you will be shocked to hear that I still have routine to get up and have a glass of milk and then straight towards toilet. My mother just made it a habbit for me like there where fixed timings of mine to go to bathroom and eat and sleep and Now its a habbit ..she never faced anykind of problem with us, but I guess your ones are really small but you have to face them I am not a mother but still I have some of my cousins who stay up by here and I take care of them easily like once I made a kid finish his homework in 2 hours they just need a constant concern and watch on them. But with LOVE and CARE..!You can even make a deal with them like if you finished your dinner Ill be taking you for a ride tomorrow and etc..Hope it wil be of your help.

well,kids are really like that!grrrr...though i hate i still have to stand to it because....because i have to.and mothers have to!extend your breaking point instead.there's no way to get thru it.lol

Well, that sums it up 4 me.lol. I am a single mother of 3 kids and I rarely get any sleep at all so i understand what u r going through. Even though my kids r older now they still dont go to sleep on time. My oldest 2 have adhd and they have 2 take sleeping meds.2 help them sleep wich rarely works and my youngest is hyper and just doesnt like laying down when shes told. I have 2 deal with everything on my own with no help from my absent poor excuse 4 a husband, so there are times when I just wanna run like hell and scream.

Well, that sums it up 4 me.lol. I am a single mother of 3 kids and I rarely get any sleep at all so i understand what u r going through. Even though my kids r older now they still dont go to sleep on time. My oldest 2 have adhd and they have 2 take sleeping meds.2 help them sleep wich rarely works and my youngest is hyper and just doesnt like laying down when shes told. I have 2 deal with everything on my own with no help from my absent poor excuse 4 a husband, so there are times when I just wanna run like hell and scream.

in away yes, but not due to kid's but due to parents....