Verbally Abusive Husband

You just haveto leave him period.I was ina 7yr relationship full of pure hell!!At first he was sweet and fun.Then a few years later he started getting controlling and talking down to me.And then all of a sudden he started hitting me.I mean BEATING me.I also have a son with him.My son is 2 yrs old.I have an 8 yr old thats not his but looks at him like her father since her father was never there.I left him a months ago and its been hard and hes been putting me through hell.Hes busted my house windows hes threatened to kill me and my kids but you know what....i will not let him scare me in to getting back with him.Im going to tell you from experience that it only gets worse soon he will be hitting you and maybe even your child(you never know).You dont want your son growing up seeing that cuz then hell turn out like that or even worse just be flat out traumatized and have a messed up life.I decided to put me and my kids first and i left him.I would never be with him again.And i would never be with any man like that again.Its scary and it gets scarier IF YOU LET IT GET THAT FAR.It starts as controlling...then it goes to hitting....then it goes to cheating.....and it just goes on and on and the only way to stop it is to leave.This man has mentally traumatized me.I dont htink i could ever trust another man in my life.Its only been 2yrs for you,leave now while youre still sane.Because literally i feel crazy...insane...

Bubi That really doen't sound good at all my sis is a relationship that isn't healthy either she's the only one who doesn't see it as for you I hope you get out while you can it's uncool that someone would treat you this way and verbal sometimes can lead to more like hitting and worse don't take it from him if you can please get out of this, it's unfair he treats you this way

you poor thing,the best thing to do is pack all your son an your stuff an get out!before its to late.what your husband is doing is playing games with you.an dont fall into his trap.if you dont want your son to sufer than get him away from that kind of abuseive behaveuoir.pack your stuff when your husand isnt home.an just leave.

Hi I myself am a stubborn women like very I won't let someone tell me what to do I might lash out at the person or resent them for the way they've been treating me. It's tough when it comes to a child ,but in your heart you have to do what's right fro yourself and for your little one. It's not easy ,but maybe walking would be best not that anyone wants to be a single parent. If my boyfriend or husband I don't have a husband yet it's on my list of things ,but if he told me I couldn't see my friends and wouldn't let me talk on the phone and was controlling i would leave even if a part of me still loved him ,but I doubt I'd feel loved at that point if he treated me like that. Were both stubborn he doesn't like to be told what to do either. Not that I would I give him advice or I just listen to if he has a problem with something. I hope everything's ok with you and for your child's sake you did the right thing sometimes the hardest choice is the best one. I had a friend who was in a abusive relationship and she was afraid to leave him and by the end it wasn't verbal anymore he was hitting her and she left him even though they have a son together they weren't married ,but what a mess it could have been if they were he thinks key word the place was his it is under her name so there forth your out of luck he is a horrible father barely raised that child it's been her and her parents. She works close to full time on top of that and he's almost 3. She just wants to raise the boy well so he won't be like his father. It's hard watching someone as in a friend you care for going through this. Your remind me of my friend I hope things worked out for you.

listen for everything there's a solution plz dont take any hasty decisions..every marriege go through some hurdles..but things has to be soughted out every cleverly..think about ur child who's just started seeing world through ur eyes...talk to ur husband..sometimes it does work...just ask him whatz his problem...discuss...ask his views..put up urs..handle it very tactfully...if cant just take help from ur elders,friends,his close relatives...breaking off is not the solution..HAVE PATIENCE

I was in a verbally abusive relationship for years and it was on the verge of getting physical, get out now, he will sweet talk you everytime you go to leave, mine did. Finnally one day my son and I got in the car and headed north and never looked back. It's a very difficult thing to do and it hurts, but I have never regretted it. My relationship was a lot longer than yours and I don't know why I stayed as long as I did, that's why I'm suggesting you get out now while you still have your self-esteem, don't wait til it's gone because it takes years to rebuild.

Go to a women's shelter for abused women and do it NOW...they are equipped to help you, do not delay!! Realize he will NOT change and it will only get worse. GO or at the very least, CALL!!!!!!! keep me posted