How do you deal with someone like this?

Made some stories of your own too, and be mad at him.... just look how he feels about it. Do to him what he usually does to you. I'm not sure if this will work to you but it works for me. I have a friend doing this everytime we are having a good time partying...after few shots she would always bragged about certain incidents that never really happened, moment like she said we left her or blah, blah... but we all know what truly happened and It was never intended. I Don't know if this will work to you because we have a different situation... but there is no harm on trying... do what he does.. and ask him how he feels because surely he would feel so bad.... then tell him this is how you always always felt when you are having this confrontation.

Well, your boyfriend is...different, shall I say. I guess I can say I know a person who does something slighty along these lines;shamefully, it's me. I don't make things up in my head that aren't true, but sometimes I do assume things too quickly and get angry before thinking. I think everybody does this. I don't really know how you can deal with him. You're pretty much doing everything you can by talking to him. That's all you can do. Talk to him and be honest with him. I wish you luck:)

Siren - is that why you are sans smile? I am a bit like that sometimes, and years ago I was more so than I am now. A lot of it had to do with my sense of self. The brunt of this was of course borne by Coffeemate! lol. I wonder as to how serious this is in the case of your boyfriend, but there is usually a number of reasons for this. Coffeemate attended a seminar at the Landmark Forum and then sponsored me to attend. While it is not intended as a cure for anything - the weekend seminar helped me focus on "Who I am" and became very alive to "What I am being" in most situations. This is available in the Netherlands - both in Rotterdam and Amsterdam. Just ring them and attend an introduction. Landmark Forum Date(s): Apr 13, 14, 15, 17, 2007 Location: Amsterdam, Netherlands Phone: 31-20-422-1188 If you are closer to Rotterdam, they would give you the details. At the end of the day the solution lies within a person. And that is within the power of most people. I am sure you love him and hence this frustration. Try to investigate this and all you need is a week-end. Join him if you can. I assure you it will be a transforming experience. Cheers to a more powerful life!

your boyfriend is crazy. eh? why he's putting words in your mouth. people like your bf is quite hard to deal with.if you two gets married someday, am telling you there aint a day that you two wont argue, such a sour relationship.if i wre you, go tell your bf that maybe he needs to think things over, maybe ne needs some space for him to realize he is being quite unreasonable

I know what kind of person your bf is... it's called paranoid!! He's too afraid of something that is irational. if you married him, it won't be an easy married.... like maybe he'll accused you about cheating on him... when you didn't do that... maybe he'd been hurt too much from the previous relationship or he just being a paranoid... .

Hello siren...im new...just decided to jump in and found this one. It sounds to me like your boyfriend has a serious psychological problem.If he's inventing these things in his head based on nothing in the realm of reality and not based on any sort of circumstance then he needs to get help. He may react quite unfavorably to this suggestion but it sounds to me like there is a real problem developing here. How long will it be before things escalate? Is this something you can afford to let go? Perhaps do a bit of research, talk to a psychologist yourself and get a professional opinion but this sounds to me like a most urgent problem.

Drop him and move on, choose more carefully next time.

My father is like this. He invents things as well and then gets furious at everyone else for stuff that just didn´t happen. He also forgets that he says things, and then gets angry that you remember. For example, he will forget that he got angry about some stupid thing and then say, "Oh, but I never do that." If you say, "yes, you did it yesterday" he will fly off the handle and accuse you of being a liar and of trying to tear him down. It gets old very fast. I no longer speak to my father because of this.

Have you done something in the past that made him sort of doubt you? Maybe he's under a lot of stress lately and is having a hard time coping up with it? If you havent done something that made him lose his trust in you in the past, then i dont think that there is a reason for you to argue with him. If all that he;s saying is senseless and he is becomming too paranoid- then just ignore him and give him the silent treatment. If he asks why you have become like that- u tell him what you feel- that you are offended because of the way he thinks about you... Talk to him why he thinks like that, does he trust you at all? maybe he's had a traumatic experience before or something...

I think you'd better be pational with him.When he involved in his own bad thoughts,you need a lot of time to explain to him until he understand completely.Once he thinks of that things again you need to explain to him again because you have no choice.

dump him, you deserve better.

For a person that makes up bad things in their head and blames it on others has a serious mental problem. If it is constant he needs to see someone for help like a psychiatrist. You ought to tell him he needs to see someone about that. If I were you don't give in to his craziness and counter react to it.

Hi Sirensansmile I went out with someone who was kind of like that they'd remember things differntly then I would I felt like they were making things up. I'd be like it happened this way or that never happened and they remembered something that never happened I gave up on arguing with them so I let alot of stuff slide. In terms of the guy randomly I had another ex like that he'd grab randomly and it made me uncomfortable. We'd go places and he'd make out with me it annoyed me there's a couple reasons he's my ex the fact I found out he'd grab other girls and he also cheated on me I kicked to the curb when I found out we didn't last much longer I was done. In terms for you talk to him about how you feel, myabe he'll understand? I mean there's place, I hope he doesn't continue to make up stuff that's just odd I don't understand when people do that.

In psychology this is called projection. The problem is, you can learn a lot about what's going on in his mind by what he's projecting out on you. If he thinks you're cheating on him, you might be very cautious - he may have it in mind to cheat on you, or may have already... If he thinks you're being a big liar, he could be being a big liar to you. Whatever he feels guilty about, he projects onto his mental image of you and thinks you're guilty of it. So be careful with this one... Unless of course you are cheating or a big liar (lol) Of course, he could always just be a plum crazy paranoid - who knows?

Ya one of cousin brother also behaves in the same manner.He also talks about all things which never exist or is of no use.What I do is simply sit and listen to him neither try to make him understand nor try to cross question him,this way he feels satisfied that what he said was heard and was accepted.If I'll sit and make him understand he will never understand so I just listen and then ignore and pretend as if nothing happened.