is honesty the best policy in this case

yeah, in my case i was told by my ob that my baby is breeched so i gotta have cs and i was like 'oh my GOd! i was a freaking nervous and i was like blaming my husband the baby was breeched, and so we did an ultrasound and the baby was perfectly normal. doc advised me to follow up on her clinic, which i never did.i gave birth birth to a veery healthy baby girl,normal delivery.

That is a really hard thing to be told but they have to be honest in order for you not to be shocked if something happens. I know it is a painful thing to hear but hopefully it made you stronger and your baby is ok. wish you all the luck and prayers

But how would you have felt if your child had not survived and you were not told. I believe that doctors are obligated to tell their patients the truth. 27 weeks is very early for a live birth and after the birth there are so many things that can and do go wrong. You are one of the more fortunate ones, But I would believe that the chances of your baby surviving were about 25% if that.. So count your blessings and do not dwell on what did not happen

for a doctor to tell you that he or she is very sellfish. they know that they are not to add more stress to the baby at anytime during the pregnancy. if you did lose the baby it would be thier faughlt and not the term of the pregnancy. i am very glad to here that she is very healthy .

That is terrible that they told you that. It is difficult to maintain your stress level when you have additional worries like that. Some doctors don't have a good bedside manner. I know it was necessary for them to make you aware, but putting it in that extreme, must have been heart breaking. I remember when I had a miscarriage, my husband and I were totally devastated. My husband had to walk away because he started crying and the doctor asked "if he didn't want the baby". I got very angry and told him "what kind of a stupid question is that? my husband does not like to cry in public, that is why he walked away". Anyhow, that made me feel even worse, with the way he handled that situation. Your right, it could have been handled much differently. Sometimes doctors forget we are human.

Honesty must always be a best policy in life. To be honest is being responsible. In your case, the doctor's advise relayed to you is his honest opinion. However, there's should be a thorough diagnosis prior to stating future circumstances to avoid trouble or fear to the receiver of information. Therefore, being honest shall be coupled with responsibility.

While congratulating you on the achievement, i think its very inhuman and brutal of the particular doctor. I am sure, it is his duty. But its inhuman in my view. I faced a similar situ when i was 5 months pregnant with my first born. I had fibroids which caused severe pain. I was hospitalized and the doctor was an elderly gentleman. A scan was done and the hospital has called for a surgeon and he has told my husband the baby has to be removed to save me. Luckily my doctor came and both of them took me to a scan together. Then they decided i could keep the baby and my fibroids do not harm the baby. All this was between my husband and the doctors and they never let me know what was going on. I had the baby 2 weeks before due date. Anyway, what i want to pointout is, it was my first baby and i was conceived after 3 years of marriage. Imagine my mental state if i was told that they have to abort the kid. They told that to my husband, and did their duty and spared me the mom from unnecessary heartache. Anyway, i am so happy for you and your baby girl. Take care and good luck.

As if the doctor told you this. It might have been different if you asked him the question directly because they have to be honest with you in any case, but he should've known that added stress could complicate the labor and that telling you would be a dumb move! Well, I'm glad to hear that everything went well and that you now have a little girl to show for it :).

Honest is best in most cases but sometime it is okay for a little white lie every now and then. Only if the person is not strong enough to know the truth and cases like yours. God Bless you and your!! I AM GLAD EVERYTHING TURNED OUT FOR THE GOOD.I HOPE YOU TALKED TO YOUR DOCTOR ABOUT IT. YOU SHOULD BE HIM KNOW HOW YOU FELT .MAYBE HE WILL THINK ABOUT IT BEFORE HE TELLS ANOTHER WOMEN SOMETHING LIKE THAT AGAIN.

Doctors have to be honest because this is their duty. If not mother, they have to tell someone from family. In some cases, the problem is that they can only save one person and they should know whom to. Telling mothers this at the time of labour can result in being stressful so its better to consult family and if family thinks it should be discussed with mother then they should also tell her.

Oh I also wanted to point out, that if you went into labour at 27 weeks, you kind of already know that it's a bit dangerous and things might not be right, so you don't need doctors to be telling you that. At a time like that you need all the positivity you can get.

People say that honesty is the best policy but it is not always applicable. Here the doctor told you what he found it in you and its nice of him that he can say that directly. But thank god that everything ended up well in the end not like the way the docotor said, anyway the doctor might have guessed out things for you so its not wise of to do that hope he too have learnt a lesson from this.

Thats a tough situation to be in, but honestly I think I would have appreciated it had they told me that, because if things happen, at least you're prepared and they can focus their attention on the baby. It's a scary situation to be in and of course at 27 weeks of pregnancy, it's terrifying yo be told that your baby may not make it, but it's their job to make sure that you're informed of this.

Actually it would depend on the kind of person you're saying it to.. If you're strong then it wouldn't matter coz you know you'll have to be strong even more to be able to make the baby survive..

I do think honesty is the best policy in most cases. When my daughter was born we all thought that everything would be fine. I was a high risk pregnancy because of my asthma. when the contractions stoped after two hours they induced labor. Something went wrong and my heart started to flutter and the fetal heart was dropping. They flushed my system with saline and threw greens at my husband and told him if he wanted to see his daughter born he must hury. We were told nothing. I had no idea while this was all happening. I was going nuts and yelling what is goin on. I was quickly sedated and within seconds a c section was performed and my daughter was born very healthy. I was very happy. I found out later that the baby had some how worked her food under my rib and was beating on my heart every time I pushed with the contraction. I was glad that everything was fine but I think it would have been nice if someone took five seconds and told me what was going on.

well i think he should not have told you in the beginning.it really adds to the stress.but in a doctors point of view he needs to tell you so in case God forbid something had happened you could be mentally prepared for it.but if i was to break the news to you i woudnt have told you so.it is also good to hear you have a healthy girl.

I think they shouldn't say anything while you are in labour. It is so stressful and painful on its own, you don't need any added trauma. To think for 2 days that your baby might not live would be absolutely draining and heart breaking. I wonder if there's an unspoken rule about that among the maternity doctors, like if they should tell the parents bad news before or wait until after? I'm glad your little girl was fine and is doing well.

I'm so glad that your little girl survived and is doing well. Losing a baby is never something we can be prepared for, no matter how far ahead of time we are told. I would probably prefer to know ahead of time if it was early in the pregnancy so I wouldn't keep buying things for the baby and looking forward to having it, but I don't think anything was gained by telling you after you had already gone into labor. If you had lost the baby, you would have grieved just as much no matter whether they told you before or after the birth so why subject you to that added stress during an already difficult time for you.

Your doctor should get fired and lose his license to practice, as one of the first obligations of a doctor is to keep you as calm as possible, so you will be as much in control as can be. Remember that 50% of all medical problems originate in the brain.

first of all, It is very nice to hear that It all went good. I definitely think that that doctor should have kept those things for himself, without speaking a single word to you in that precious moment, when you where needing all the positiveness and good energy to deliver in the best conditions. There are really too many cases I hear of doctors behaving in pretty unappropriate ways ! For example, my mother has been preoccupied by her gynechologist, for a few month. according to them I was really too big, an almost monster. And what in the end? I came out pretty big, but absolutely ok and not even overweighted.