child bearing vs. financial matters
By kclaret59
@kclaret59 (587)
Philippines
March 21, 2007 12:06am CST
hello good day... id like to share this personal story with you my friends. i have a husband but we were still living in my mother's house since we still cannot afford to have our own house, even rent one. if we do, we are certain that we will be having a terribly difficult life and i dont want my child to experience it. as of now, my husband is working for the governement as a teacher and i am a professional teacher too but i am studying nursing right now, so i cannot help him with the bread winning things. though hard may this situation be, we still have thought at the back of our minds to bear a new child, after all, our baby is already 1 year and 4 mos. old. i will be finishing my studies next year. is it all right if i get pregnant? what are some other things to be considered? and aside from those things, my kid really loves babies.. he gets so excited even by seeing a child. and i pity him for that. we'd like to give him a little bro/sis.. but the finances!!!
4 responses
@ciaosamson (541)
• Philippines
21 Mar 07
I understand that your kid loves babies. But hey, let's get real. Another baby is not the answer to the financial problems you've been talking about. Another baby will only get you farther down where you are today.
You're taking nursing courses. I assume you want to go abroad to work. It's not easy going abroad even for some who have relatives who are already outside the country. But if you do go abroad it will be a good help to you, financially. But I know a lot of mothers who took up nursing and didn't want to leave the country afterwards because they couldn't leave their families. Why not let your husband leave to teach English? A lot of foreigners are DYING to learn how to speak the language. Or he could teach in another country
Meanwhile, don't spend too much. My boyfriend is int he states but he only sends us $200 a month. half for our baby and the other half for the house we're renting. Imagine how insufficient that amount is. But I make ends meet by working. I don't earn much but we get by.
Remeber, only you can make changes in your life possible. But believe me, another baby is not the answer to your dilemma.
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@mikaelalexis (399)
• Philippines
21 Mar 07
just an opinion: babies are blessings. they are God given gift. and when God gave gifts, like babies provisions are also on the way. but in your case, you have to set-up your priorities. you are well aware of the financial turn-arounds of having a baby and yet you would want to insist on pursuing you nursing studies. pray for wisdom so that you will have better guidance and understanding of everything.
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@shamilton712 (99)
• United States
22 Mar 07
I think that you two should wait to have another child. Why bring another child into this world when it is difficult for you to provide for the first one. It also wouldn't be fair to your mother to bring another child into her home. I thin you guys should get your finances straightened out, move out and than have another child.
@saheli (79)
• India
22 Mar 07
Both you and your husband are struglling with life, good time will come soon.
Your first child is so yunger I think you should not go for the second child its too earlly. first finish your studies be financially strong, then think of a child. Your second child also will bring some expences with him.
