Harasing teacher

The situation seems kind of gone far more than controlling it or giving an advice. It would only be better that you as a friend suggest and force on few necessary things which are missing out because of studies. May be you should just push her harder to relax, take a break, party out though not often but a must need for a person who is constantly into studying.

God bless you for caring about your friend so much! It is people like you who prevent tragedies and bring light into the darkness depressive people experience. Keep it up! I see two possibilities here. One is that the prof. sees your friend's gifts and wants to help her develop them to their fullest -- only he's being a clod about it and needs to be told that. The other possibility is that he feels threatened by her intelligence and is trying to break her. He needs to be told that too. Males of every nation often have problems with smart women, especially if they feel that their "equipment" is too small. (Really, his "weeny" MAY be teeny! LOL!!) Then they really feel a need to stomp all over ANY woman whom they see as superior and desirable. For all we know, this guy might be madly in love with your friend and this is the only way he knows to express his interest! As a last ditch effort, before going to other faculty, she should try this: after class, she should approach him and say, "I am working very hard in this course and feel I'm giving it my very best effort, but I also feel that I am being personally singled out for negative input from you and am wondering what the reason for this might be. Is there anything I can do, or stop doing, to alleviate the situation?" If he truly feels she's under-achieving he'll say so. Her response to this should be, "I can understand that, but I feel like I'm being bullied, that I will never be able to satisfy your expectations, and it's keeping me from being my most effective in your class." She needs to be very calm and composed when she does this. Sometimes just telling someone what they're doing, in blunt and explicit terms, shocks them into re-evaluating their tactics. It also lets them know YOU know what's going on and can spoil their fun if they're being malicious. She needs to keep her statements to "I feel that . . ." to avoid being blatantly accusatory, which could make matters worse. If she appears genuinely puzzled by his behavior, and is non-threatening in her approach, the teacher in him should respond and she might get a helpful answer. In any event, she (or her parents) are paying a lot of money for her education and he's wasting it by crippling her ability to function, both in his class and out of it. This, all by itself, is a great reason to just drop that class and get those credits elsewhere. If he's the only prof. for that course, and she can't get any satisfaction speaking with him directly, she needs to run -- not walk -- to his direct superior and discuss her options there. Chances are he's done this before and they are aware of it. If they realize her other coursework is being affected too, they may be even more helpful. It's their job to keep students in school and protect the reputation of the college, especially when they want that tuition she's paying! All that being said, it can be very hard for a depressed person to reach out for help, let alone standing up for themselves! Please keep being the loving friend that you are, she really needs you! Also, don't let her give up until she's tried 7 times to resolve the situation. 7 seems to be the average number of attempts before positive resolution can be attained, especially in large institutions. Perseverance furthers! Good Luck!

harrassing in what respect? harrassment is against the law (well it is in modern non-corrupt countries) try reporting these insidents to the police (in india try giving them some money as it definately helps) and get the teacher put in prisson!

The teacher is most probably not aware of the extent his proddings have been affecting the student. It would greatly help and probably "life-saving" to have an actual consultation with him and relay the real problem. Some role players - in that case - that of being a teacher, gets swayed away with the role called for. He just wants probably to fulfill his task of encouraging and prodding the students to do better.

Hi friend well, I would say that your friend might have kept some goals and some aims which she want to achieve, so first and foremost she should know what all she has to focus on to reach her desired goal and other than that she should not much be concerned with other things. If there is some problem, with the faculty members then there is always the HOD whom she can report to, also in good institutions we are provided with councillors who help us solve our day to day problems in a better manner. So she can take their help as well. Living with a stress mind and don't having meals will not help her in any way.

i've known someone in my college days who experienced the same. some professors are really unreasonable, maybe they're just insecure with their students or whatever reason they have, it's so unfair. so what could a student do? talk to the Dean of the College. your friend should explain what exactly is the pressure she/he's experiencing in the class.

She should complain in private to a faculty member she trusts and find out how to do it safely

If you friend is that depressed/upset over the matter of her professor down her throat all the time, I agree with those that said to schedule a meeting. Just the friend, you there for support and the professor along with an administrator of the college. If talking cannot work things out for her then I suggest she try to take a different course or request a new teacher for that subject. All the best to your friend.

Tell your friend to rise over this nagging phobia. The TEachers seems to be a married person and must be having a fight over his wife satisfying him and he his trying to get even with your poor friend. TELL your friend that she ignores him completely and do not complain to him for reasons otherwise he might feel offended and get more vocal. Ths is a form of ragging hidden in the system of Education the world over. WE OUGHT TO GET OVR THIS AND FIGHT OUT OF THIS DEPRESING MOOD. TELL YOUR FRIEND THAT SOONER OR LATER THE Prof will be out of her life anyway, as and when she passes out

i do think from my experiance that the best thing you can do is phone this professor and scduale a meeting with him there you will explain the situation and find the answers to all of the things he meant by doing what he did to your friend when i was in the university i had a similiar case i almost broke up but in the end of the year that professor came to me telling me how he appreciate things maybe he is not aware of her sensitive situation and maybe he is aware but things she has to go through it because life is not that easy.. from my experiance university teachers usually harasses people that they think are worth paying attention to it- which is supposed to be a good thing but is not done properly usually please go and talk to him..you'll found out what is going on..and he will be aware of the mental situation of your friend.

just make ur frnd understand that taking so much burden can be dangerous for her health..u can inform her parents also about this problem also u can complain about dat teacher.. u hv three option choose which u think is better

I think you should talk to her, encourage her that no one can get us humiliated except we agree. Its like someone telling you that you will not make it in life. By the time you take it to yourself, you now become a looser, but by the time you ignore it, you find out that you are a success. I know such thing is not easy, but I think the best thing to do is PRAYER. COS IT IS THE KEY

I have to say that professor got some issues for doing that to the student. I mean is he only doing that to her only? What about the other students? If I was that student I would file a complaint for harassment.

Please see your Principal in the College and narrate the entire unbecoming behavior of the Professor probably he is exploiting you unto his evil designs.In case the Principal does not listen please send your complete grievances and complaint to Women oraniizations e.g. SAHELI etc in Delhi fighting for women's cause or you can even send a complaint to The Chairman, Manava Adhikar Commission Delhi for the redress.You need not to hide this social abuse.Be brave and come out of this ugly situation. You can do it with out any damage unto your education career.

It seems like the teacher has some mental problem. Tell your friend to take a discreet survey whether he behaves like that with all his bright students. And also tell her if it is government college then the opinion of the college teacher doesn't matter. They don't set the questions or they will never be able to evaluate her papers. So just ignore him. And if she is a little daring play some pranks on him. I faced a similar problem too. But instead of harassing me only our teacher used to harass all of us and all he wanted was money only. I still remember in a Biology class test involving only True/False type of questions all of us excluding the students who attends his private tution failed miserably. We compared our notes and found that suppose the answer of question number 1 is False you will never get correct from him whether you wrote true or false. Complaining is not a solution here cause in India you cannot get a disciplinary action against a saarkari professor that easily. On the other hand it is very possible that someone has told the teacher to gain his favour that your friend made some bad comments about the teacher or questioned about his abilities.

What i feel about this is that your friend must talk to the professor about what is the problem in between them, where does the prof. thinks she needed attention, if she feels that its a viable point then nothing could be done but to take care of the problem but if the case is otherwise, i would suggest your friend to talk to the higher authorities.

kastor i think she should go to someone more authorized in that institute but some female that she can tell her problem openly and clearly. and i hope it works really!