What do you say to neighbors with negative comments?
By Jasmine99
@Jasmine99 (13)
United States
3 responses
@AKRao24 (27424)
• India
21 Mar 07
The best thing is to ignore them ! I used to get irritated with the silly negative comments and day today nagging of these neighbourers when I used to stay in a City before taking up my present job, where I am staying alone in a separate house on the farm! But later on I have given the tought about it and found that every one does have the right to form a opinion about thing and there ought to be difference ofv opinion between to individuals and this difference of opinion makes all the difference! Wanting to dominate the situation to prove ones supremacy on others, Jeleousness on the sucess of others, failures by the people, not getting the response or feed back from others in an antoicipated or expected manners are few r4asons why a typical neighbourer starts behaving in a indecent manner! This is expressing his negative feelings and trying to disturb our well balanced family , which he/she can't stand! I think if we respond to their tantrums and get into quarrel with them and loose our mental peace, then we are succuming ourselves to their palns and they have won in their target of making our lives miserable! Thats why I think the best way is to just ignore with a small smile! I am sure if we start doing this within a few weeks or say within few months, they will get themselves tired of the situation and they will try to behave themserlves!
Thanks for initiating such anice day to day problem which we often face in our daily lives in any society! All the best!
@OnfireforJesus (500)
• United States
21 Mar 07
I would most definitely ignore them. It is not worth the trouble if you have to live next to them. It would make a problem even bigger! Good Luck!!
@tallpaulno44a (1574)
• United States
21 Mar 07
I try "killing them with kindness". Many people say rude things because they don't know what else to say; others because they are insecure and hope (subconsciously, at least) to feel better by making you feel worse.
If you treat them rudely you will perpetuate these traits in them and they will continue to be rude to you. By being nice to them, you at least give them a chance to break the pattern and be nice to you in return.
I have found that almost everyone responds in a positive way to kindness.