how to handle a husband addicted to computer
By eiffel
@eiffel (39)
Philippines
March 21, 2007 3:51am CST
My husband and I quarrel often because everytime he's home,he was hooked in his computer,doing something.Sometimes I think he spent more time in that damn unit rather than his kids,there are times I want to discuss a family matter with him,but if I see him busy again,I just turned my back.Any suggestions myLot friends how to handle my guy?
4 responses
@sunnyblr (22)
• United States
21 Mar 07
I have the same problem as all of you... but the only difference is that we are newly married.. and I dont have anyone else except him..Im not working, so all the more reasons that I want his attention when he comes back home... in th begining I was very frustrated.. but then we sat down and had a talk with each other...
now we both spend time and do thing together.. ..I try to get involved in his activities..like watching the movies he likes, that way we get more time together...so atleast I get my share of attention...
@foxyfire33 (10005)
• United States
22 Mar 07
I don't have any advice but wanted to thank you for starting this topic. I have the same problem. Mine works 12 hour shifts and counting the commute is gone for 13 1/2 hours. When he gets home he goes straight for the computer and usually falls asleep there. On his days off the first thing he does when he wakes up is turn the computer on, almost always before he even says a word to me. He gets grumpy if the kids bother him or if I try to talk to him. His computer time comes before everything and everyone. Hopefully I can use some of the advice you've been given and I'll keep checking back to what else has been added.
@thebestmom (1104)
• Philippines
21 Mar 07
Yes, that is also my problem. at night, after dinner, he will be with the computer. I dont care much, because I have to teach homeworks to my kids, and now its summer, im used to it. I dont even know what time he sleeps.
What do i do? I just live with it.
@Paulinha917 (47)
• United States
21 Mar 07
My husband is like that too. He works 12 hours a day and then comes home and sits at the computer for most of the night, and if it's not the computer it's the tv. It makes me so mad cuz he gets so distracted so when I try to talk to him I have to repeat myself 3 or 4 times before he responds. We would always get in fights too. So recently we talked about it and I told him it's ok sometimes but he does need to spend some time with me and our daughter and he needs to still talk to me even when he is on the computer. He still is on the comp a lot but he does make some effort to spend time with me and talk to me more now. So talk to him and let him know how much it bothers you. Try to compromise. He can have a certain amount of time on the computer and then spend time with you. Good luck!
