did you regret the fact that you had a child at a very young age?

Philippines
March 21, 2007 9:07am CST
i got pregnant aT 17, became a mother at 18.. at first i dont know how to tell my parents about it. my parents are too strict and have high expectations from me. eversince i was a child, i have high grades in school, an honor student, an editor-in-chief of our school paper, a quiz bee champion. the last thing i would like to do was to fail them. but i did.. and i dont know how they're going to deal with it. i was afraid.. so i decided to keep my situation from them. however, my boyfriend and i are planning on what to do with the baby. abortion occured on my mind, but i hesitated to do it. i just cant do it. 4 months had passed before my parents knew about my pregnancy. at first they were shocked (who wouldnt be?), but as time went by, they had manage to accept it. so i stopped school, i was in my 2nd year in college at that time.. 2 years more and id be graduating.. but i had to stop since our dean wouldnt allow me to continue studying while im pregnant.. it would be too risky for me and the baby since i was taking up nursing. i was stuck at home.. my parents wouldnt allow me to go out of the house because they dont want that our neighbors would know about my situation. they are so ashamed of it.. a good reputation is important to my parents. i admit that it was boring for me since i was used on the outside. i hangout often with my friends, go shopping, clubbing, and a lot more.. but i busied myself on reading books and finding a name for my baby.. i was forced to eat vegetables. it was not easy for me to do that since im not a vegetarian. however, my boyfriend's parents are so supportive of me. my boyfriend takes care of my needs and the baby's. he paid for my monthly check-ups, vitamins, etc.. even on the hospital bill when i gave birth (i had a caesarian delivery). but he wasnt there when i gave birth.. he has to be in another place to work. but he keeps in touch always.. much as he likes to be there to see the baby, he just cant. i gave birth to a healthy baby girl, i named her AYESHA MARIAE, and right now, she's already 5 months old.. having a baby on an early age or on the time you weren't ready yet is hard, yet it gives ne a sense of fulfillment. and I DONT HAVE ANY REGRETS, even if i dont do the things which i usually do anymore.. because now, my life is more meaningful, and she gives me a reason to strive harder.. truly, she is a blessing to me!ü
2 responses
• United States
22 Mar 07
i'm 21 and am pregnant with our first baby and i couldnt be more excited! i applaud your strength ;)
• Philippines
22 Mar 07
thanks for the response and congratulations! wish you have a safe delivery and have a healthy baby..ü good luck!
@im_anna (717)
• Philippines
21 Mar 07
trully, you made the right decision. having a child at a very young age is hard but it'll all be worth it. i can see that you're a strong woman, you would always get inspiration from your daughter. She is a blessing and you would see what's really essential in life. "Relationships are often charged with pain, they try us, confuse us, frighten us, threaten us & make us weary. But they also uplift us & fulfill us. It is through the pain we suffer in our relationship that we strengthen our love for one another and grow as individuals."