I'm in love with my ex-husbands cousin...
By chengbeb
@chengbeb (285)
Philippines
March 21, 2007 12:02pm CST
My husband and I haven't had any formal separation...he's in Singapore and I'm in the Philippines...In 2003 I fell out of love...and in 2005 i fell in love with his cousin...is that bad? What do I do? His cousin and I have been going steady for 2 years now...he doesn't have any idea...and I don't know if it's right to tell him? Can somebody give me any advice please???
5 responses
@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
19 Sep 08
[i]Hi cheng,
I guessed you need to have your separation legally so that you will have the whole freedom to enjoy your life with your new love! I am sure for that span of time that you're separated with your husband, he has move on already and that who knows he has his own love life also!
Anyway, Just do the right thing so that you will just have a peaceful life with your new love![/i]
@renmiciano (122)
• Philippines
9 May 07
Uh oh... By saying you haven't been formally separated, do you mean he has no idea that you don't want to be with him anymore? I suggest you be straight with him. You're putting not only yourself but his cousin in a tight spot.
Divorce is not an option if you are a Filipino. There are stricter grounds to have your marriage annulled, so technically, remarriage is out of the question. But I'm sure there are people who have gone through the same thing and made it work.
That's my advice I guess, be honest, what you're going to tell him is bad news, but it could be a million times worse if he learned it from someone else.
Then again, this is just advice. You're in the best position to evaluate the situation, so the decision is yours. I hope you work it out... good luck
@jollyjeangiant (219)
• United States
29 Mar 07
It sounds to me like you need to get a divorce, and tell him. They are cousins, he's bound to find out some time, and it will be better (not good, perhaps, but better) if he finds out from you rather than accidentally or by the grapevine (and never underestimate the power of gossip). If the marriage is over, it's over. And since you clearly have no attachment to him anymore, it's only fair to let him know that. If you ever loved him, then you wanted what was best for him, and this is clearly not it. Good luck.
@fatteh_kateh (187)
• Australia
1 Apr 07
It is time to get a divorce. You need to let him know how you are feeling and that you are with his cousin. To create anymore mess I suggest you tell him ASAP so you can move on with your live and he can with his. I wish you luck!!!
