She takes drugs!!!

it is up to you if you want to befriend this person. i understand that it is nice having someone to walk with and talk to. you said it yourself though bad influence on your son. you have to think what is best for him. i know you already are or you wouldnt of asked. since you have started the relationship though it might be hard to get out of. you will either have to be very blunt and to the point or very busy. peronally since the kids will be around each other in nursery you might have to take the backway out. i would just tell her that you enjoy her company but you dont agree with her personal choices and you would like to remain friendly but it may not be the right time for you right now. that your son is picking up some things and you would rather he didnt. or just be realy busy.

I say err on the side of your child and his safety. And in truth I'd be concerned about the safety of her child as well.

It is sad to hear about your friend. But for argument sake you should try if you can to help her. And at the same time making sure that your son will not be influence by her or her son. And making a decision to just leave her and look for another friend for the good of your son and you as well. I know it is a hard choice to make but you have to. With all of this choices always be careful we don't know how will she react. Good Luck.

hey thats totally upto you.your son comes first and he shouldnt be influenced by the kid.you have the right to choose who you can befriend.you dont have to directly ignore the person and hurt their feelings.you need to do it indirectly so that she gets the point.try acting busy.that would be the best way.dont make it artificial.you can keep a hi-bye relationship.

I would certainly consult with the nursery director. I am sure she has noticed this as well. Your biggest concern should be to your child and her child as well. If it take calling childrens services then so be it. I know you don't want to cause conflict, but I am sure conflict is better than a hurt child or worse. If he is out of control and running in front of cars, she is obviously not too concerned about the safety of her child or a good role model to begin with. I am sorry to say those things but from what you are saying they are true. So it might be time for you to consult the nursery director to see what you can do in this situation.

so nice

Well this is unfortunately not the kind of friend you need...and it is not the kind of child you want your son around. I have known people like this. It is better just to stay away from her...just stop hanging around with her...and make up things..etc. Hopefully ..she will get the message....

she mighthave become you friend, but i would stay away, she is bad news. the other thing is, mention it to someone at the school she drops her kid off. that kid should not be around that kind of stuff. drinking, you never know if shes driving with the kids in the car while intoxicated. thats dangours

The great thing about friends is that you get to pick them! If you're not comfortable with someone, you have no obligation to continue in a relationship with them. How to get out of it is the tricky part. It can be hard to tell someone you just don't want to be around them. If you're the kind of person who can do that, then that would be the easiest way. If not, I'd just find other things to do during the times that you see her. Tell her you have somewhere else you have to be after school and take a different route or run your errands then or something. Just always have something else going on and she'll get the idea.

As much as you want to help this lady and her child, your first duty is to the child. It might be the best thing possible if you reported her to Child Services. She would have to get help and then she and her child could begin to live a normal, healthy life. If that is not something you want to consider, find out who some important people are in her life. Maybe they are not aware of her problem. They might talk to the lady and she would be persuaded to get help that way. It would be less invasive and the law would not come into it. It's hard to know what to do, and I feel for you.

It is really a difficult problem,if I were you,I would feel confused too.If you don't take actions then it will do bad to your child,but if u do somethings then you maybe hurt your friend.

I would definately try and help her if you can, it sounds as though she could use a good friend and needs help, as for her child being a bad influence on your son this is a tricky one as children are so easily influenced, maybe react a little when her boy does something you dont approve of to show her this behaviour needs sorting.