Is your relationship preference based on Religion or Love?
By catcai
@catcai (1056)
Philippines
March 21, 2007 10:44pm CST
Do you prefer to have a relationship with someone with the same faith or religion as yours? or you still prefer the good ol'fashioned relationship based on your feelings for each other? Do you consider Religion as an important part of the relationship or is love enough for you? why so?
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10 responses
@mummymo (23706)
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22 Mar 07
Like this discussion catcai! There are probably many ways of looking at this but my personal opinion is that love conquers all! As long as a couple from different religions can respect the others beliefs and compromise on issues then there shouldn't be any major problems!
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@hello_cancer (183)
• United States
22 Mar 07
personally, not being overly religious, but still spiritual, relationships are based on love with me.
if i love someone i can accept things that they believe that are different from what i believe, granted they dont try to force their beliefs on me. i would never be able to live with that no matter how much i cared for the person.
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@lirael (501)
• Philippines
23 Mar 07
You know what, I've tried doing that. But I find that it doesn't work for me. I refused to change, and so does the guy. In the end, our religion became a big hurdle for us. It was ok when things aren't that serious, but after a while, when talks of wedding comes up, our future looked doomed. So we just let each other go. Now I'm with a man of the same religion as mine.
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@cherriemae (3370)
• Philippines
22 Mar 07
For me, Love has a big point when it comes to a relationship. But we cant disagree with those people who really need to have a relationship with the same religion. Like Chinese, they really need to marry with the same person. or Muslims or other religion that has this policy when it becomes to have relationship. We also need to respect their rules. But for me, i prefer to marry with someone with the same faith or religion and of course, we love each other. But if when i will love a person with different religion, i will accept him because i love him.
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@maucute (979)
• Philippines
22 Mar 07
I agree, I'm a Chinese and as I can see with the situation my parents would want me to have a Chinese boyfriend.. It's really hard that they see it that way, it's traditional for them. But it takes time and understanding for them to see that you made that decision because you are happy with it. Your last line says it all.. :)
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@brideofchristnj (30)
• United States
22 Mar 07
As a Christian, the Bible states that we are not to be yoked with unbelievers. So I believe that if you are a Christian before you are married, then you already know what God expects of you. And because God knows whats best, if you follow His will and His design for things, then it will work out awesome. I know it sure did for me!
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@catcai (1056)
• Philippines
23 Mar 07
hi brideofchrist...
thank you for your comment- the reason i did have this discussion was really based from the christian notion that a christian should be paired with a christian as well.. and they really stick to that notion...right now im still confused because i was born a catholic but i am attending a christian church- is it really necessary for christians to be paired with fellow christians? how come? thanks again, i know you can help me out on this.. take care!
@maucute (979)
• Philippines
22 Mar 07
Same faith and religion wouldn't matter I guess if both of you respects each other's opinion. Of course I would want a relationship based on love, I think it's in it that makes you understand each other. Feelings for each other might not be called old fashioned coz it's the way it has been until now. We might see a different picture now because people in our advance generation try to think things differently.
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@beautifulceiling (1300)
• United States
22 Mar 07
The two are so inextricably intertwined that they may as well be the same thing. At least they are to me.
@Bytekeeper (372)
• Philippines
22 Mar 07
My first girlfriend was a member of Church of Christ and I am a Catholic. Our relationship lasted for more than a year. We broke up with happy memories and we're still friends today. Actually, I am a godfather to her eldest child.
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