ever experienced friend fatigue?
By chaddik
@chaddik (113)
Philippines
5 responses
@syain1972 (1011)
• Singapore
22 Mar 07
What I did was to take time off away from them for a while. Take a short break out of town and maybe make new friends. Have you asked your friends why are they behaving in that manner? Maybe you should be frank with them and let them know their weaknesses... If they still treat you like a friend, than they should not mind you being honest.. Good Luck!
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@matlgal (1686)
• United States
22 Mar 07
Oh gosh- are you reading my mind or what! LOL.
I find that lately there is a friend of mine that I just find most annoying and overbearing. She is a long time friend but I swear the older she gets the more self centered and selfish she gets. There are 4 of us that just "hang" together and do lots of girl things.
We have laughed at each other of late saying what the heck are we going to be like in 20 years? - impossible to please and a royal pain in the patoot we fear. We all are getting set in our ways and certainly less tolerant of each other, and almost everyone else. I find that life is too short to spend time with annoying people. LOL.
To deal with it I go back to thinking what my life would be like with out them, and it's not worth a friendship to hurt their feelings or avoid time together. It's trivial and petty when you think about it. I know I am certaianly NOT perfect and I must do some things that drive them nuts too. I just sigh and smile and say "she a good friend and I love her" this too shall pass.
True friendships are too hard to find, I try to remember that when she annoys me right up to my last nerve.
@chaddik (113)
• Philippines
22 Mar 07
oh, that's is so warm of you...i laughed at the first few sentences that you wrote and the longer your comment gets, the more vivid i see the closeness and attachment that you have with your friends.
i think i see my mother and her friends in you and your respectives girlfriends - they laugh together but sometimes, you can see how they annoy one another. but all through the years, they stick together like super glue.
yeah, i guess this particular time will just pass...but do you think it's alright if i somehow tell my annoying friend that sometimes...she gets already overly egocentric?
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@matlgal (1686)
• United States
23 Mar 07
Of course you can, just select the tone by which you say it. Make it funny if possible something like " You know I am in one of those moods today that I could just scream and not sure why... but it would serve you well not to go into one of your egocentric trips. That would drive me over the edge"... of course she will say " I never do that"... you would say Oh come on now..... be serious. We all have issues and your no exception".
You've planted the seed now and maybe before she takes off on one of her one-way-her-way trips she will think about what you said and silently thank you for it?.
Good Luck!
And...
Thank you so much for Best Response. I am honored and grateful.
@lordwarwizard (35747)
• Singapore
22 Mar 07
One kind of people gives energy. When people are around him, everyone gets excited and feel happy.
Another kind of people takes energy. People around him feel drained.
I think your friend may be belonging to the second kind. Let her know about it and suggest she changes. People prefer to be around positive people. If she refuses, just leave her alone. You are better off with other people.
