Easing away lonely blues

Aww Charms dear, I know what you mean. I have a wonderful hubby and a loving family back home, but still I feel lonely and sad at times. I have this void feeling within and I feel useless. I often cry which helps, and I write poems. So many of my poems have been inspired by those "not so nice" gloomy moments in my life. I try to think positive and assure myself I'm not alone but somehow that feeling takes a while before it goes. Hugs to you dear and don't feel lonely:)

Whenever I get the Lonely Blues I like to go to the Mall Of America. It's huge and has thouhsands of people in it at any given time. So I sit or walk around & I start up conversations with total strangers. Mostly foriegners visiting here for a shopping excursion. Or sometimes I go to the senior center for my city and play cards with the old geezers or help serve lunch. Theres always something in the city for one to do to ease the blues etc. Go out cheking these things out. Maybe volunteer at a few different places. Take your bunny to the seniors home for them to visit with. Many homes allow this here in MN. HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!

Hi, Charms! I'm usually doing something, so I don't really feel lonely because I do not have time to, what with a part time medical practice, an active toddler and plenty of people at home. But I do get tired sometimes with the routine of my life, so a little break from the routine like going out with a friend really recharges me a lot. I know it's probably nowhere near what you are describing but I am sure I will probably reach that point when my son is older and he goes off to school. By that time, I will probably increase my "part time medical practice" into something more "full time". I do love my medical practice and my patients, and working makes me fulfilled!

Oh it happens baby. It sure does. Normally, I just continue moping since the feeling is sublime. If not, I would just have a shower and sleep it off. If it is not a too serious case, things will be better when you wake on the morrow.

I know how you feel. Having been there. However you need to remember that the world wont come and find you, you need to go out and find it! I know its hard. I came out of a disastorous relationship and ended up completely isolated. I could go for days with out seeing or speaking to anyone. I had to get up and rebuild my life, little steps each day until I got where I have got today. Try persuming so interests, may be join a gym, if nothing eles will kill a couple of hours, improve health and makes you feel better. But you have to get up and be proactive. Just bite the bullet and go for it. Hope this helps. I follow whatever I said in my life when I feel "lonely blue " is their in my life too .

We have a very similar situation. I'm also left alone in our house most of the times. I eat my breakfast and lunch alone. I also have my dogs to accompany me. Whenever I feel the lonely blues starting to sink in, I will try to keep myself busy by reading books, calling my friends on the phone or going to the groceries. I also try to have a conversation with my boyfriend, who is one of the persons that makes me feel blue most of the time.

I never get time to myself to feel lonely as I care for 4 disabled people inn my family , but if I did I think I would probably still be her sitting with the laptop chatting to all of you lovely people here on My lot xx

Yes...I can certainly relate. I think that everyone gets lonely once in a while. I think that you are doing the right things though. You need to go out and get fresh air...go for a walk..clear your mind. Or spend time with family and friends when you can...that all helps...I know I get lonely quite often and I really hate it...because I think that it has lead to my anxiety issues too...I am alone quite often...

It also happens on me sometimes when I am really bored and has nothing to do in our home. I just watched television, reading books, grab something to eat or play with my dog Beuwolf. I find playing with dogs a nice thing to prevent boredom. Playing with pets can remove your stress.

I am rarely alone. I work and go to school. After that my daughter and husband are home. When I do get to be alone, I love to clean the house. No one is in the way! I walk with my husband in the evenings, but sometimes I look up a friend. Enjoy your alone time, you may not always have it!

Scorpio are people who are alone most of the time. We have a big family 5 boys and 5 girls. I feel alone even if they are around. I seek to be alone. Now I am alone, not because of choice. It seems each has his own life to live. I have my two nephews with me, yet I still feel alone, even when they come home from school. There is age gap and they also prefer to be left alone each doing their own thing. When you get old, loneliness seems to be another issue that you have to accept. My friend is also living alone. She takes her breakfast and lunch in a food Chain. In the food chain there are old people who live alone they spent their breakfast together and enjoying the morning together.

I am at home every day also. I have a Pomeranian dog to keep me company. My 15 year old daughter is in school and my husband works at least 5 days a week. I get lonely sometimes, but I try to stay busy on the internet in Mylot or anything else I can find interesting. I try to earn online every day, so Mylot takes alot of my time. I don't have friends to call or hang out with. I like being at home but it sure does get lonesome when my husband works overtime hours. My daughter usually plays with her friends so I stay alone alot of time. I just keep busy on the internet to pass the time by until my husband gets home from work. I also have daily chores to keep up with every day. I never really have time to sit and think about how bored or lonesome I am because I always have alot to do each day.

I know what you mean...sometimes it's possible to feel lonely or alone even if there are a lot of people around you. Feeling lonely is about feeling isolated physically and mentall from others, it's a natural human thing to want to make a connect with people. That said, I think the internet has done so much in helping people "meet" other people. Even if you are in your house you can chat with someone halfway around the world. If you are feeling lonely, you can go to a forum, like mylot or elsewhere and find people with common interests, or who are going through the same thing you are. This can really help you feel less isolated. I'm glad to hear you have a pet too. Animals can be such great company because they love you unconditionally. I think you got some great suggestions from the other posters. One thing I do, is keep the raido or TV one if I am alone. It dosen't matter what's on that much, it's just nice to have the sound of a human voice to keep you company. Don't be afarid to look to your friends for company either. Good friends want to be there for you when you need it :-)

Dear Charms, the secret to getting out of lonliness is to get your mind off yourself. That feeling is called meloncholy which is used to cause low self esteem about yourself. And to cause you to feel worthless. But don't accept it. Go out and find some people that you can help and do things for. I used to know some women who would cry and cry that they wanted a husband. I need me a husband. So I'd tell them to get their minds off themselves and go and find some one who's worse off than you are and you'll feel much better. So in the future when I'd see them again they'd tell me that it works and thank you.

Well Charms I go on here , I read my Book I write my Book and I just start doing something. Most of the time I am on here anyway so there is always someone here and then I know I am not alone. So just shout as I am normally here and I will chat to you Girl and try and take that loneliness away from you Love and Hugs xxx

Yes, I have friends on the net and as well, I am a freelance published author, so actually like being alone... You could get a cat, read, go to the library, listen to music (that helps...especially talk radio!) I have an aunt who is elderly and alone and she reads, does cross word puzzles, listens to the radio, watches tv, but is lonely for human contact as well...but i have a hubby, 2 kids and a cat so i have little ocassion to be lonely.

It happens to me to sometimes, sometimes a sad movie can trigger it. Well I try to do something, if I can't go out and that's a good option I try doing something creative like drawing, writing... I might even search a favorite song or so on. But when all else fails I usually watch a movie in bed and fall asleep. Going out is always a good thing. Call up your friends if possible and maybe go watch a comedy at the cinema or rent a dvd and watch it indoors with your friends. We are social beings so I guess loneliness can get to us!

Oh yes, I know loneliness! With my husbands many long deployments, it is an inevitable part of my life. I usually seek out my friends on the military support site I am a member of because they are going through the same thing I am. One thing I have found though. If the one person I long to see is not there, I can be just as lonely in a crowd as I am sitting alone in my house.

wow, seem that you have been affected and influenced by the so many blue discussions recently and it may get bluer if this continues :P I will either drown myself with work or idle away loitering the streets or cleaning the beach. No way I will stay at home.

I am 22 years old and am the loneliest I have ever been in my entire life. I should be out with friends, partying, having a great time.. however, I have severe social anxiety issues. Also, all of my friends moved away and I was supposed to move to Florida back in 2003 but my father found out he needs a heart transplant so I chose to stay home and help take care of him. So I do nothing but sit at home alone [hes in the hospital a lot] and wish that someone would just hug me or somethihng? Give me the time of day, per say? I try to stay talking to my fiance and chat online with friends and such. Sometimes reading a book, playing a video game, or watching a movie is the best. Or even sleeping [sad, I know] just to pass the time.