How we can understand a girl is virgin or not

i know virginity might be important in your culture. But do you love her? I think it would be terrible to leave somebody you love and have a healthy relationship with because she may have had a partner before you. I understand you might be hurt if she was not a virgin and told you that she was, but you should evaluate your marriage before deciding on divorce. And, were you a virgin? If so, I understand your hurt even more. If not, why was it okay for you not to be a virgin, but necessary for her?

Well, you could try asking her. If you do not trust her to tell you the truth then perhaps marriage is not the best option for you.

I have gone thru all the replies sent by fellow members and all have replied excellently. Ofcourse their attitude should be appreciated. There is not any method to find out female virginity. Really one should be virgin in their heart. So try to trust your partner.

well, the best thing is to ask before you make her your girlfriend, or at least before marriage. If she is indeed not virgin anymore, think and think again, will you actually take her as girlfriend of wife. At least it is better than deciding whether want to get divorce or not. Long time ago, my ex-girlfriend actually told me that she is virgin before we get together as boyfriend-girlfriend. Probably she is very aware of this issue and do not want me to have this thought and doubts.

well, i feel really sorry for your wife. you should heve told her that you prefer virgins even before you got married.

I don't understand, if you wanted a vigin why did you not ask her about this before you got married? Divorce is definitely not the answer, is there something that you guys can do to fix your problems coz these days, virginity really isn't a big deal. In your country it might be different but even then, it would have been best to find out if she was one before you asked her to get married!