I think my friend deserves to be in a mental hospital
By Aryanbharani
@Aryanbharani (209)
India
March 22, 2007 3:48am CST
This is very important for me, I need ur opinions and how you would overcome this situation.
You might as well get on with thinking I too must be crazy if I have a friend who is crazy, but read through and you will understand...
This particular friend is very close to me though I know him only through internet and we havent seen each other so far.He is 24, dumped by his girlfreind.
Now it so happens that one of my other friends(a she) living in the same place as he, married and has two kids calls me up and tells me he has been behaving strangely for the last couple of moonths, and i vouch for him and so she moves as usual with him.
Yesterday he called me up and told me that he was madly attracted towards her and he wanter her badly and the fact that she was married made things interesting for him.He adds that it was only a matter of time before he could seduce her.
This is utterly SHOCKING!!!!!!
HE had been a good friend, aI don't want to lose him.I also don't want to see her life being ruined cos of his craziness.What do I do???
Please this is very very important for me, share ur opinions
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19 responses
@rogue13xmen13 (14402)
• United States
22 Mar 07
I think all of humanity deserves to be in a mental hospital, but hey that is just me. I think that we are all driving each other into the brink of insanity.
@Aryanbharani (209)
• India
23 Mar 07
Thnx for ur responses people, I think Im gonna inform her today, he is hopeless
@classy56 (2880)
• United States
22 Mar 07
you need to tell your friend what he is up to.an how he feels about her.this way you can stop it before it gets out of hand.an she can him that she not interested in him.an if you havent never met him in person you need to be carefull.an remember a internet friend is not like haveing a real true friend that you see all the time."warn your female friend.
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@Aryanbharani (209)
• India
22 Mar 07
I think you are right, I am will warn her, if he doesn't change his mind by tomorrow
@RobinJ (2501)
• Canada
22 Mar 07
This man is infatuated, with the idea of seducing a married woman this is so he can have a bigger self esteem, It is only the challenge that he cares about,and he is very wrong in his thinking, If some one has to take from others to raise their self esteem they are very unbalanced and should be avoided, he is a user, plain and simple and you might think about your friendships as it appears he is using you in telling you about his wants and needs to see if you will warn her or are you loyal to him , You must make the decision where your morals lie and do what you believe is the best thing.
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@manmaxman (850)
• India
23 Mar 07
as u tell about ur friend ur frd is realy deserved to be in a mental hospital///////////////// don't mind
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@metamorph2001 (15)
• India
22 Mar 07
Explain to him thoroughly the situation everyone's in and the situation that he would trigger off by his lewd intentions.........better still take him out to parties and stuff....that'll probably make him cheer up a bit!!
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@zalidatai (22)
• Malaysia
23 Mar 07
This is my opinion. I think there is no other way unless they are separated from each other. Someone wife's has no right to stay with another man for no reason. Just tell them that. You also know that we have no right to fall in love with other's wife.
@here_for_you (325)
• Philippines
22 Mar 07
I think you just have to protect her from him and try to avoid that person because as you've said, he seems to be a freak. You don't know him too well in the first place and it is just too risky on your part to continue the friendship and also advice her to get rid of him as much as possible.
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@Gwapako_28 (2140)
• Philippines
23 Mar 07
Since he is only a friend from internet,you need to be careful with him.Its hard to trust anybody and even its a close friend. Tell your female friend to ignore that guy but let her warn to be careful and watch out for the moves he will make. You never know whats in his mind.He might be insane or not but its really hard to trust anyone now a days.
@NatureBoy (493)
• Singapore
23 Mar 07
Wait. This 2 friends that you have stay together, i reckon in a rented apartment. Now, this guy is interested in this girl. Because of all the wrong reasons.
Tell the girl then. Cut short the worrying and sorts. If this guy is just out for fun, stop him before any harm is done. But if he is for real, only your girl friend can tell.
@subathra (3519)
• India
22 Mar 07
Since you say that he is a close friend of yours please sit with him and talk openly so that you can get some solutions for it.Explain him that it totally non sense to even think like this.One thing you can do is call up that lady and tell her to stay away from your freind not disclosing this real fact.Your freinds desire cannot be fulfilled if she stops talking with him.try this...
@bhu_bhuvaneshwari (164)
• India
22 Mar 07
Hey first mistake you did was to vouch for him when you yourself had not met him and did not know anything much about him. actually you should not have convinced your friend when she complained to you rather you should have been on her side and cut off from this guy. now since this has become an issue bcoz of you, inform the guy about what he is doing and ask him to stay off your friend and also try not to keep in touch wiht him.
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@shwetashetty1481 (124)
• India
22 Mar 07
i think he should be given two tight slap on his face...just cause he got dumped ,he cant run around a married female...what he's trying to do ruin her entire life...just for what,a temporary satisfaction...u have to stop him somehow,if he wont listen....then warn her right now before its too late..her married life will be finished..her husband,kids whatz their fault,simply they have to suffer..just for ur friend's foolishness..once the trust is gone it cant be got back...she'll suffer alot,u got to help her as soon as possible...
@scarislegend (92)
• United States
22 Mar 07
You let her know IMMEDIATELY. This could turn into something horrible like rape and or something worse. He's a predator. You need to keep in touch with her and either cut off all ties with him or keep in touch with him just for enough time to keep updating her on what he's planning to do by manipulating him into telling you his seduction plans for her.
This is such a scary situation.
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@prakasharige (1129)
• India
23 Mar 07
I this is not that much serious problem. It is very common and natural that a youn man getting attracted to a beautiful woman (whether the woman is married or unmarried). Only thing is if your woman friend don't want to continue relationship with her, she simply can avoid him by not entertaining him. It is upto them to decide. Therefore, you stop worrying about them. Let the time will decide the future.
@axe_effect (799)
• Philippines
23 Mar 07
hmm.. that is pretty weird. well all i can say is that be carefull in everything that you do.
@xfallenxlostx (2074)
• United States
23 Mar 07
Do you honestly feel he needs to be in a mental institution for something like this? Because if so, then you don't understand what a mental institution is. Your friend is not mental just because he has these fantasies. It is actually fairly normal. Unless there is far more to it that you have not disclosed to us, there is no need for your friend to go to a mental hospital. You shoul djsut have a talk with him and explain how inappropriate this is and tell HER about it. Warn her. If she deosn't want to be seduced, she won't be. Simple as that.
@catcai (1056)
• Philippines
23 Mar 07
Well, you would have to set your priorities, what would you rather have? Your guy friend whom you’ve just met over the internet or your real life friend who’s currently married and has kids to look after for?
YOU should talk to your friend and tell him that for your friendship’s sake, if he really is a good friend of yours, maybe he can consider leaving your married friend alone? Talk to him and tell him that there are other fishes in the sea and that he should take into consideration that your friend has a family now. He shouldn’t be so selfish like that- I think he is still affected by being dumped by his old girlfriend, that’s why he couldn’t think straight.
Or maybe you can try to set him up with other SINGLE friends of yours? Besides he said he’s just madly attracted to your friend, I'm sure when he starts to see other people then maybe his mind will change.
If I were you I would advice my married friend to stay away from the guy before something bad happens to her! I would even go there if possible and would talk to the guy straight up… well that’s just my opinion though… good luck…
