Have you ever fell for someone who is in a relationship?

Philippines
March 22, 2007 3:52am CST
The question I have mentioned above was true to what I had a year ago. I fell for someone who is in a relationship.... I need your opinion on this.. Here goes my story: He was my crush since first year college and we get to know each other because of him borrowing a note from me. Since then we became friends and came to the point of him asking me as he termed as "lovers". It was a complicated situation because he has a son with his girlfriend and at the time when we became "lovers" we were both in a relationship. Eventhough that I knew from the start this relationship would not last and wrong for I knew he is in a relationship and with a son but not married I still went through. I have been rationalizing to myself that this would be my chance to show my love and see if my infatuation would get real. But sad to say it didn't work because my conscience keeps bugging me. Right now,we are still friends and see each other though at times we do things what the bf/gf do.... Am i crazy or it's just stupidity? If you want to get the details just read my blog http://superfwens.blogspot.com -- Friends then lovers Do give me your opinion.... Should I stop this stupidity or continue? What will I do to forget him? Haaaaaaaaaaayyyyy...
4 responses
@paulsy (1263)
• Philippines
22 Mar 07
I think you should end it, forget him. Put yourself in the position of his girlfriend... and ask yourself how you would feel if it was you he was cheating on?? remember, whatever you do to others now will come back to you in the end... it will happen to you too.. one way or the other, it will. and it will hurt so bad! http://paulynramirez.com
• Philippines
26 Mar 07
I had already ended a year ago. The relationship lasted for a month. But the saddest thing was right now was I think I have feelings for him. He broke with his gf right now not because of me but because of something personal which deals on money. How can I stop this feelings of mine? Should I go out and date someone to forget him? Wouldn't that construe as biased to the one I dated because it would look like as replacement?
• Philippines
31 Mar 07
Elva...Is the feeling you feel right now in that person who've got separated with her girlfriend is true...?Or the feeling you feel right now is only a pity to him coz you know he need something to talk in this kind of matter..!!!And for person you've got date rigth now did he know the situation in your love life or the feeling you have right now in the pass person who you love...?or you have a feeling too to the person you've got date right now..?In that situation you better choice between the two(2) of them..Choice of the 2 person right now before the one you've date know that you go out with him for the replacement for your guy..!!!Choice in the 2 guy where you be happy when you've got date with them or when you go out...!!!
@Pigglies (9329)
• United States
31 Mar 07
I have had small crushes on people in relationships, but wouldn't act on them. If someone were to hit on me while I'm in a relationship, I just let them know that I'm already in a relationship, so they don't need to bother. I would hope that others would do the same if I accidently were to ever hit on someone in a relationship, as I wouldn't want to be the one to break a couple up.
@lucas528 (323)
• Northern Mariana Islands
22 Mar 07
Yes I did. And still in love right now. Balance your thoughts.
• Philippines
23 Mar 07
For me the best way to forget one person is you must focus your attention in one thing which you enjoy...Do that everyday make that a routine...For me it was effective coz in everyday that i do the routine i finally forget here..!!!:D Its not easy to forget one person who you love most...ahhehehehh