How do you handle a temper tantrum from a 7 year old boy?

if the boy is throwing a fit an crying for nothing" im afraid i would have to give him something to cry about"there is nothing worse than a screaming brat"{im not just talking about your son}.i have seen my grand daughter do the same thing}.she gets everything she wants from her parents by screaming an crying.i told my son if he didnt put his foot down an start controling her an show her who is the boss.an give her a good spanking everytime she did this."you just need to show him whos boss an everytime he acts out give him something to cry about! an he will stop this.an old fashion spanking never hurt anyone.i know it sounds mean but its not.it only helping the child.to learn he cant always get what he wants.

Somrthing that I found that worked for my daughter that did this was a shock. She was about 3 when she had gotten into the habit of having a tempertantrum. I was setting at the table haveing a glass of ice tea when she started oneof these and with out thinking I threw it on her. She was so shocked that she stoped at once. It took about twice for her to find out that she didn't like the cold water After the second time I would just have to ask her if she wanted me to do it again. After about a week she had completely stopped.

I think its time to stop agreeing to his wants and wishes and keep conditions that he could go to visit his grand parents only if he does xyz, dont be easy on him, if you do you will repent one day.

okay, its abd for a 7 year old to make this much tantrum, but you should consider his age also. i have read in a book that the small kids are very possesive at a ge from almost 5 to 8, they want every thing , my mom use to say that i also do the same thing by hitting othere kids. but obviously if the kid i making so much problem then u have to put a stop to that othere wise it will be difficult to deal afteer words, make it difficult for him to get things, dont head to his anger , many mothere heads to threre kids and end up having the same problem , put a halt to this and explain, if u have all these tandrum u r not going to get any thing

well, I'd smack him. But that might not be your bag. You need to teach the kid discipline,and maybe great gram and pap should quit spoiling him, for the sake of the rest of the family. I'm not sure how to straighten out his attitude, and time may be the only thing that could do that for you.

Hmmmmm....I am only 17, so I'm going to be writing this from the viewpoint of a "child." When I was younger, my outbursts were few and far between, which stemmed both from my being rather introverted and the way my parents raised me. No matter the place, the only thing that a temper tamtrum earned me was the promise of a spanking when we got home, or if I was really bad, a short trip to the nearest restroom. While I cannot say this from personal experience, I think that the reason children throw these sort of fits comes from the feeling that there will be no serious repercussions. (However, I am also aware that there are certain types of kids who will always through fits, even if throwing one means for serious punishment.) Also, and I am not trying to get too nitpicky, but sometimes the whole "every whim catered to" concept can cause some problems. I have many memories of both my brother and myself getting turned over Grandma's lap because we were disobedient.

Hi I know what you are going through and believe me that is nothing a good old fashion paddling will not take care of (I do not mean beat your son) then let him know that he is not going over to grandma and grandpa until he can learn to behave his self and let the grandparents know that they are not to give him everything he wants ...I work with my sons and their children if my sons will not let their children get away with anything than I won't if they are not to have a certain thing then my grandchildren do not get it my 2 year old grandson is made to pick up his toys before he goes home if he does not want to than they stay until they are picked up regardless how upset he gets he is made to do what he is told

I would ignore the tantrum for sure. And of course I woulnd't give in to whatever the wish or reason for the tantrum. Perhaps, if the anger is from jealousy, the parent could start setting aside one hour per week to do something special with just this child. A date per say. During this hour this child would have the parent's undivided attention. The time could be spent doing whatever the child wished or the parent could plan something special. It wouldn't have to cost money, but if the parent could afford it, perhaps a trip to a local fastfood. Other ideas would be a short hike, a day in the park, whatever!

My son just turned 7 last Friday. He has meltdowns sometimes too. The Tuesday before his birthday, we went to a family friend's hous e for a birthday dinner for their 2 year old. My son refused to go inside the house. He cryed and screamed like someone was killing him. My husband picked him up to carry him inside and he grabed the door frame with his hands and legs!!! All the time screaming "NO, NO". We finally got him inside where he sat by the door for a whole 10 minutes before running and playing with a 6 year old boy!! I was so upset that he behaved this way that he did not have anything for his birthday. No party (canceled the next day), no present, nothing. The next night we did go to a restaurant for dinner and had the wait staff sing to him. Last night we had a long talk about all of this. I had said to him before that I am the person who does everything for him, yet he treats me the worst. He is a 'daddy's boy". To make my point, I reminded him that he lost his party, gifts, etc. He gently cryed and told me that he is so sorry for his behavior. I hope this will be the end of this meltdown tantrum stage for us. I hope this also gave you some ideas you can use with your child. Good luck!!

Try reading the book "1-2-3 Magic." Its the sort of plan that people either love or hate, but personally, I loved it! My former roommate and I used it with her 4-year-old son who was having severe behavior problems including trying to push his mother down the stairs, trying to choke people from behind, trying to jump out a second story window, injuring the animals, hiding our car keys, trying to jump out of a moving car, etc... as well as temper tantrums. We read 1-2-3 Magic and followed the plan consistently. We also created a chart for him where he could earn small privileges for a day of good behavior, and larger privileges for a whole week of good behavior. Within a few months, he had calmed down so much, he really was like a model child, and much happier!!!

First of all, is this your child or is he a nephew or something? If he is yours, I'd first suggest that the next time he does it, you tell him that he can scream and cry all he wants but you aren't going to pay any more attention to him. That's what my mother did with my cousin and it worked like a charm. I'd also suggest that you tell his great-grandparents that unless they want to take on the responsibility of raising him, they stop spoiling him and catering to him. And, thirdly, I like the advice of the person below who threw the cold water on her child. I think that would get his attention real fast. Make it ice cold water right on his head. Let us know what happens. I'm curious to know what works.

if the grandparents are letting him get away with things then when he comes back to you he exspects the same thing from you. i would talk to the grandparents and maybe they will change the way they do things. i have a 9 yrs old niece and when she was younger my mom would let her get away with alot i told my mom one day keep what your doing and it will come back to haunt you and it did. i dont know where your from but watch super nanny its on abc its on monday evening. watching that show teaches you alot about how to kids and there bad behavior. wish you good luck.

My daughter tried a small tantrum a few years ago (she's now 8.) She got picked up swiftly and several good smacks to the rearend. Guess what? She hasn't done it since. And she even points out when children are doing this in public, that they are acting crazy. Parenting is a tough job, and I don't advocate "beating" a child. However it is your job to teach your child proper behaviour, and throwing tantrums is definitely not proper behavior. Good luck.

Send him to his room and do your best to ignore the screaming. (oh, and if he destroys his room - don't clean it up for him. You just load the cannon for the next outburst. Plus, if he can't find his things then he'll learn not to trash his room). Do not give in to what he is demanding. And the grandparents need to get on the band wagon regarding his behavior as well, or I'd say he doesn't get to go there. Take a page from supernanny and find activities where all the kids have to co-operate to get a treat. I did it and it was great. We had a treasure hunt. My oldest had to solve the first clue. The middle child had to solve the second and the youngest the third and all three the last. They had to work together to get the prize. Each clue was age appropriate and they couldn't help each other until the final one. And yes my ten year old still, though rarely, has a seriuos meltdown. There does not seem to be any magical age where tantrums just vanish. My 7 year old daughter hasn't had one in about a year. Each child is going to be differnet.

Sit him in a corner or in a chair and let him throw his tantrum. Don't cater to him or give in. It'll just make him think he can get his way. Do your best to ignore him and when he's done go where you need to or tell him to go do what you originally asked. I think the best way to handle him is with discipline. When he settles down and acts right, you may want to do some things with just him. Give him a little special attention. It sounds like he's feeling pushed to the side and less important than the other kids.

Sibling rivalry is nothing new but very difficult to deal with. Have you tried to talk to him and find out why he has these tantrums. They may well be attention-seeking as you have to divide your time between others.

From what i read, the 7 year old probably needs more attention. So after trying time and again, it seems that only by throwing a tantrum does he get the attention he so desires. First, you have to be consistent in the discipline when the same situation happens. Something that you can try is explain to him what he has done and that it is not an acceptable behaviour. Then, put him in a corner until he has calmed down. This will take forever when you first try it out as your son needs to adjust to the new ruling as well. But have patience. Second, never show that you are flustered by his actions. Remain cool as a cucumber. This is easier said than done but it will pay off because indirectly you are telling him that his behaviour does not affect you. Third, kids learn by repetition. If each time he is put away in a corner to reflect on his behaviour after losing his temper, show him ways that is acceptable. For example, voluntarily excuse himself to calm down, or go to his room to scream his head off, get a hug, etc.. And of course, never forget to reward him for good behaviour or good control of his temper. Just like us, he will feel good when he gets recognition for any effort. Hope this helps. Cheers!!- Lyn