STAY AT HOME MOM vs ALWAYS AT WORK CAREER MOM
By 1divinediva
@1divinediva (29)
Canada
March 22, 2007 9:52am CST
I was interested in getting peoples opinion on what is more challenging, being a at home mom or being a career mom.
I currently have two children and was a at home mom for several years. I am now currently working and my job seem to be alot harder in some sense. Staying at home seem overwhelming sometimees because my kids always neeeded my constant attention. Now working I feel that I'm missing out on a lot of things and also more tired. When my day is finish at work I still have to return home and give my kids my full attention. I think this can be more of a work load then just staying home. (What do you think)
I also consider being a at home mom is a job without fincial pay but very rewarding in the long run for your kids. If there were more moms that stayed home there would be more kids directed in the right direction. Usually a career mom has other means for child care and most of the time, its daycares and babysitters that do the job of raising the child. In some sense if the mom was raising the child more, life lessons are taught and understood better by the child because your the parent telling them. Kids are becoming out of control these days because for all types of reasons but one could be moms and dad are always at work and they have to much time to do what they want and thats when they lose sense of the rules. So you eventually have more kids running up and down the street, more kids doing drugs, more kids dropping out of school etc.....So my question is whats better? Should we as mothers or fathers stay at home until are kids are able to understand what we have to do to provide for our families or do we leave the job up to the daycares and the babysitters or someone else in the family to do the job for us.
My up most respect goes to all mothers and dad holding it down.
3 responses
@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
22 Mar 07
I think it would depend on your own family situation and what was best for them. Some mothers are able to stay home to take care of their kids full-time, and then there are others who are not able to, and need to work, and therefore have to put their children in daycare centers or have family take care of them.
I was working full time when I had my son 4 years ago only because we couldn't afford for me not to work. I was able to take him to work with me for a couple of months and then was able to leave him with family while I worked. I was only 5-10 minutes away from home, so I was constantly checking on him throughout the day. I had home help which was great cause then I didn't have to worry about household chores when I got home from work. As soon as we got home, we spent ALL our time with our son right up until he went to bed. Yes, at times I missed out on things he was learning but I think I made up for it when I had time with him after work and in the weekends.
Since moving to USA last August, I am now a full-time stay at home mom and loving it! I find it a lot more harder than actually working a full-time job, and it has a lot more rewards and satisfaction that what I ever got at work LOL. To see and spend time with my son, to watch him grow and learn new things etc. has been the best thing for me ever and I am happy that we made the decision for me to stay home until he starts school later in the year. At times its frustrating because I think he could be learning a lot more if he was in preschool i.e. social skills, learning to share with others and playing with kids his own age, however the preschools are very expensive where we live, therefore I do try my best to teach him, but at times I feel I lack the skills and wonder whether he is missing out by not being at daycare/preschool?!?
I too have a lot of respect for parents that stay home to take care of their children, not an easy job but a very rewarding one.
@1divinediva (29)
• Canada
22 Mar 07
Thats awsome, just alittle tip I was feeling the same way about not knowing how to teach my child social skills etc...The best thing I decided was whenever I had free time, I would invite kids or friends in the neihborhood over for play time, that way I did not feel bad about not letting her interact with others. Sharing and some other things depends on the child...There is still children in daycares that have been taught all of those things, but still do not like to share or just planly have no social skills. It doesn't matter what there taught when there in daycare, it depends if you take what was learn home and keep up with the teaching, and some kids just learn those skills later on in life when its okay with them. ha ha
Sounds like your doing the best you can do raising yuour child. Keep up the good work:)
@EricaBabi (57)
• United States
22 Mar 07
Well.. i have an 8 month old, and i haven't been to work yet. I just had a split with her father, so i am kinda in a sticky situation. I live back with my mother and i have NOTHING. My mom works full time so if i were to get a job it would have to be at night (i'm not good with someonei dont know raising my child). I would say it is very frustrating being home with her all the time, i think especially because i am still young and have a lot of plans for our future, and i have NO idea how i am going to accomplish them. Sometimes i think it might be easier to go back to work because i will have that time everyday where i dont have to have my daughter attached at the hip, but i'm not sure how i would handle myself at work knowing that my daughter is with someone that i dont know. (I'm a worry wart). So i have decided that instead of going straight to work that i am going to go back to school at night while my mother can watch her and get my degree to be a pastry chef! the course includes a 10 week paid externship which i think will be the best way of finding a good job.the course is less than a year long so it wont be too bad. But yeah not to stray off the subject. I think it's hard either way, but i can only say from one side (stay home mom). and it's tough :)
@1divinediva (29)
• Canada
22 Mar 07
I totally can relate to you, I have a child that is 14 and one that is 2y. The first 14 years of my sons life I pretty much stay home majority of the time. I took several home school courses and also did a some vacational schools ( because the have very short studies ). I later had another child. For the first year I stayed at home, I was so attatched and couldn't or wouldn't allow anyone to take over my job as a mother, I had alot of seperation problems. I later got a job driving a school bus becuase it was 3 hours a day and I was able to bring my daughter and earn money.With that I earned several things like cpr, b license, and great people skills. After a year and half I had a career opportunity that was available for the subject that i took at vocational school.
My advise to you is take your time, work part time if you need to do....do some home schooling and take it day by day. When its time for you to work it will happen.
Best of luck
