What qualities in a person attract you towards him or her ?

I am generally attracted to people with gentle disposition, sharp wit with a keen sense of humour and almost matching intellect.Wealth is secondary.Never gave it much importance. When I was a teenager,I hoped to be swept off my feet by someone who could sing and play the piano for me. Since I couldn't find a singer,I myself learnt to play piano and now sing for my family instead.Lol. :-P The quality which impresses me most is a warm heart with kindness and compassion.Sadly its almost on the verge of extinction.

It has to be more of intellect than looks.I feel he has to be more,or,at least equally intelligent.Lol. I don't think your assests make you a more attactive person. A tender and loving heart is sure a winner.But I'm sure when you fall in love,the last thing you do is remember all these points.:-D

The energy of the person is number one. Perfer upbeat and confident folk. I like it if the dress pretty good. Whether in a suit of in denims and sneakers. Care themselves well, comfortable with their body is a treat. You mind is paying attention to the chemical attraction. Actually I like most people until they misbehave.

HI!!To be honest this is one of the finest discussions ever started on mylot.. I FEEL tat i get attracted to people by their behavior, humbleness,frankness, dtermination, attitude , aptitude n last their looks.. if the first six r der u feel tat person s beautiful whether tat person is realy good looking.. but no1 really knows y as to u get attracted to a person.

When I met my brand new husband, I first seen his beautiful blue eye's looking at me over his eye glesses and I thought it was the sexiest look I ever seen on a man. I knew I had to know more about him. Once we got to know each other, I was attracted to so much more, his walk, his sense of humor, his soft gentle side, his brain, the fact that he has a BIG heart, his smile, his honesty. My hubby is far from wealthy financially but wealthy in so many other ways which is what I so adore about him. Assets, he had nothing ut a good paying job, a rental home, and older PU truck and few furnishings, so was it his assets? Nope, since we have bought a beautiful new home. What qualities impressed me about my hubby is his ability to be his self. I am in deed the luckiest woman in the world! ;-) Mary

every individual has different need and requirement. for some one humour may be a an attractive quality for someone may be its money and yet for some one else it may be looks. for me i think it is the thoughtfulness of others which impresses me the most. secondly comes intelligence closely followed by humour. then of course are factors like pleasing personality, basic ettiquates, courtesy, looks etc etc etc.

not really, for me it was his caring way and how cute he smiled. he like to just be with me without haveing to go somewhere, we could just talk for hours and hours about anything.

It can be difficult to tell, sometimes. In the beginning, it always feels very "random"-- it could be the way somebody looks, or their voice, or something they did, or a look in their eyes. It doesn't usually make sense. But in the slightly longer run, it always (for me, anyway) comes down to their energy, and the "vibes" I get from what I feel to be the "essence" of that person. I am not sure how to describe essence, other than to say that it seems to be what is there, below the layers of ego. And much of that has to do with a basic kind spirit and character, and a strong sense of self.

Honestly, I think I'm like you, though there are certain types of people who put me off easily enough. These being egotists, people who don't take care of themselves, and those who can't make me laugh (Its really not that hard :P) I guess I feel the attraction and if it goes further and we get to talking, then I try to figure out what attracted me to that person. Whether it was their sense of humour, or their intelligence, their compassion, how genuine they are. There's so many different things it could have been. Looks alone aren't enough, and quite frankly, if someone's good looking, but can't hold a conversation, then I don't even bother. Wealth also means nothing. What you never had, you can't miss.

ummm i guess it's when we share almost the same wavelength that I get pretty attracted to someone and eventually turn out to be some good friends. Let's say, I go along well with people who shares the same interests as mine.. but somehow still have a bit of differences to spice up the company.. :P confidence, wits, manner of dressing, and lifestyle are also some of the things that attracts me toward somebody. :P

I must say its the intellect of the person that I am most attrated to. I want a person that is good conversant and smart. Of course, fair looking is good enough.An intelletual person is a well principled man and such man I would love to settle someday hopefully hehehe. I hate users ( I knew a few)!

hmm probably all people are the same,same face and all just a bit of difference because we all are humans.According to the users question I my self beleive that we should respect the differences amongst us and the different thinking of the person because that is what hes really done,being blessed with good looks is no big deal because the person himself has not played any big part in it.The real big deal is his hardwork and his way to think properly,all of us get attracted to looks on first site but the charachter,the thinking and the hard work is what really matters.

i love a guy with a sense of humor. If he can make me laugh all the time, then he is a total catch. i never judge anyone by their assets, i have been out with guys who had lots of money and nice cars, but they were just all wrong for me. I also love a man who apppreciates what he has and doesnt complain constantly.

there are several points that i need to consider when judging a person. the first is look. if he/she has good looking, he/she has already 50 percent of winning my favor. the second is his/her self-cultivation. the third is his/her morality. i think these are the main three points that impress me most.

For me it does not attract me those who has alot of property or who are good looking but it matters most for me is the character of a person. If my first impression to a person is she/he is a good person then I would be like to be his/her friend. I dont mind if that person has property or not.

if she is simple and if she wair black dreas than i realy going to see her once ................ but the nature of a person is the best thing that always make me attracted ...........................

hmmmm for me .. someone who has a great sense of humor.. someone who isnt pretending something who they aren't and some one with a perfect nose hehehe

I agree that it is possible to be attracted to someone without knowing why. I have been through it. It just come. This person may be just an average person, both in looks and intellect. He may not be rich nor successful. It's just him. Perhaps he has with him a special type of charisma which subsciously draws your attention. Most of the time, it would be wit and humour which will implant the first impression into me.

Sense of humor =) I'm a very shallow person when it comes to jokes or laughing. I would laugh at your corniest jokes, that's true! It's something that I need for me to always be cheerful. I am a thinker and so I need someone who will take me away from all of my thinking. Intelligence is also something that would impress, but I don't wanna go too far like the "geeky" types. I'm also attracted to guys who are romantic and is a gentleman and knows how to respect women.

I dont tend to jugge a person by the way he looks nor with the kind of life he has at the moment. I usually judge a person by the way he talks and express himself to others. The kind of resp[ect he has for himself emulates the level of respect he has for others. It doesn't matter how rich you are or how illiterate a person can be.... it is the way he perceives himself as a person and the way he accepts others for what they are.