Friends I don't trust...what to do?
By Kali2218
@Kali2218 (61)
United States
March 22, 2007 12:17pm CST
Tomorrow night my husband and I are going out with two sets of married friends. The one set we see all the time and are really close with, the other set I haven't seen in years. There is a reason I haven't seen them in years...they lie. I can't trust anything they say and they have a completely different way of living. They actually borrowed money from the other friends we're going out with, a couple years back and they still haven't paid them back. There are thoughts that they have stolen from our other friends. I am going out with them tomorrow because my husband is still friends with them and they miss hanging out with us. I just don't know how I'm going to react around them. I don't see how I can talk to someone I don't trust. I mean, I can talk about random stuff, but not really personal stuff like my son and stuff. Any suggestions on what to do? I would really appreciate any feedback.
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@paulsy (1263)
• Philippines
22 Mar 07
Well, for the sake of your husband, be civil to them. and be careful not to discuss personal matters. Give yourself a little protection. Careless conversation may give them ideas that lead to another. Enjoy the night, though and try not to make it obvious that you are being rather careful about discussing things with them. Afterall, they are friends with your hubby. Let him know your feelings about this meeting so he will understand how you will be behaving throughout the night. That way, you won't end up in an argument with him after the meeting...
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@sumofalltears (3988)
• United States
22 Mar 07
If your husband is still friends with them then you have to respect that. When the topics get to personal for you to feel comfortable about sharing then toss the conversational ball to your husband. you can always avoid a question with a noncommittal answer and a question of your own and the important thing is keep smiling.
@jchampany (1130)
• United States
22 Mar 07
You know, you don't really have to talk to them directly. When you are discussing something make it seem like you are talking to everyone. You can really just have a conversation with the other couple that you like but make it seem as though you are talking to the whole table. That's the best I can come up with.
@stacyv81 (5903)
• United States
22 Mar 07
I say just keep the conversation to that of an aquaintance, dont bring them back to your house, if you think they steal. Just dont divulge any secrets, or anything unnecessary, keep the conversation as if you were talking to someone on the street. That is my advice/
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