Forgive me newbies

I understand what you mean margie. I have quite a few friends here too and I have only been here for about 2 months now. I was so happy to have friends and I accepted every request. I soon found out that I cannot relate to alot of their discussions here at Mylot. I hate it but sometimes I do not know what alot of them are saying or talking about. I cannot reply to them with quality on discussions that I cannot relate to. I know I do not post discussions here lately for you to respond to, but I try to respond to all of yours that I can. I just never seen much responses or earnings from the discussions that I have started is why I try to spend the time that I have in Mylot by responding to all of my friends. I sure hope that is helping you also when I do that.

I agree-- I hate denying peoples friend request. But a friend to me has to have the same kind of interests-- after all I look at friends discussions first-- that is where I respond most. If a member is really new and hasn't responded much to other people- I tend to stay away from them. In all honesty I will wait like 1 week to see if the start to be more active-- and to see if we share interests before I accpet or deny.. I don't think people get hurt.. I hope not anyways!

I have to learn from you and others that have been around for awhile not to just accept people. I find that some of the people I accepted as friends lately just did it to try to get me to join stuff. If I am going to join something online it is going to be with a friend I have known for awhile and not someone who asked to be myfriend just for that reason. I find others just post and post and never respond to your post. If I reply to everyone of their post I would never be able to get to all my other friends, who have been my friends alot longer. I hope this makes since. I not trying to be mean but by not watching what I did and seeing I had anything in common with the person as left me open for discussions I don't understand or have an interest in.

Thats fine by me as I haven't been here all that long and am still finding out new things everyday. Seeing you have been here for a long time could you please tell me if you have to rate everybody who responds to your discussion? I thought I was only supposed to rate best discussion.

I am not on your friend's list but you said it right. I feel bad when I don't reply to every new discussion. Today I did try to get some replys made. I rated and moved on if the subject was just not right. I gave you a +. I think your friends will understand.

I agree with you!! we can't really please everybody...and we can't make everybody your friends because each person has different likes and dislikes. Each of us has a unique personality. We have different views too.

hi there how are you well I think for me friends are really good to have even if you are far or near. But there's still that thing that when you feel that you can't trust a friend. If a friend never listen to you that mean he is not a true friend and if you don't listen to your friend as well that means that you are not a good friend as well. So please everyone if you want to have a really really good friends so please have trust on each other.

No need to apologize I think most of us work the same way. I have turned down people and it's not to be rude but some of them I have nothing in common with. I always look at their age and previous discussions they started and if they look like something I'd respond to then I accept them, if not I don't.

Yes well I agree completely that we should have things in common to be real friends and of course you need your friends to respond to your discussions I agree, yes I hope that I have not hurt anyone but some of my friends unfortunately do not put enough lines in their discussions for me to respond and I did lose money about 6 weeks ago responding to their discussions and that is why for myself I have to write at least 4 to 5 lines.

I'll take this oppurtunity to say your doing a great job hun and keep up the great work. I completely understand where you are coming from and appreciate that you take the time to respond to as many of your friends as you do. I often get requests from people to be added as a friend and wonder why? as they have never responded to any of my posts or read them for that matter? and we have nothing in common, it really does make me wonder sometimes so I understand where you are coming from. Thanks xxx

I'm glad that I am one of your friends. I really enjoy reading your posts and getting your recipes. I am really shy and don't know what to say most of the time, so sometimes I don't respond to your posts, but I love reading them. Hugs from, Carol

I am sure that people understand! I am happy to be one of the ones that you accepted as a friend. I will do my best to respond to as many of you discussions as I can.

Hello dear, well the statement you mentioned , I truly appreciate "don't want to have so many friend that you can't be friends" ,friends do form the most important part of our life. Its practically impossible to live a life with no one to share and exchange your thoughts. You are quite lucky that yu have got so many responses on your proposal to friendship. Great ,going well and try to be friends with all and try to be a true and lolay friend, by responding or chatting with them regularly. Go on you are going on the right track and I appreciate all your decisions.

Yes,I come mylot to make friends.I want to share all the friend's interests,happines,and others.But I want to say is that he/she don't to hurt anybody.I think we should try to learn to comnunicate with friends,understand what your friends write and say.This just want I think in my mind.I agree with you said that it's a great place for friends.Thank you.

It is understandable! I would rather have a friend that I can respond to than to have too many and not be able to give response to everyone. You made a good decision and it just shows that you were overly zealous but that doesn't mean it was bad. Hope you enjoy your time here!

Ye...having so many friends can be kind of hard. But ....does that mean we can't be friends? :(....:D :D

I don't see that you have done anything wrong. It is your page and you have the right to accept or deny any person that you want. I also read over the pages of people who want to be my friend before I accept or deny them. I want to see if we have anything in common or if anything they write would be of interest to me. I am also not a person to add friends to my list just for the sake of saying I have this many friends. To me, it is more important to have friends that I can learn from or who can learn from me. Good post by the way. =)

i cannot agree less