how many people have been in love???this is not just a discussion i need advice

well, i wouldnt fly back into his arms. you have a soft spot for him, and might probably always have. but he was also your first heartbreak, so that should make you wiser about him. if theres someone more suitable, and the first guy only has his 'first love' status to recommend him, then i would say that is nothing in his favour at all. no question on what to do. forget him!

Thirteen is very young to be in love and you are still only sixteen so you have a lot of time to make up your mind. I don't think anybody ever forgets their love but with time they can love somebody else. I think you are the only person who can decide which boy you want and I hope you make the right choice. I would just keep both of them as friends and see where it goes from there.

I always say "Never make the same mistake twice." If it happens once, odds are it will happen again and again. I'm sure you know this. So be wise, and good luck.

It's called a "first love" for a reason, you are meant to have more. It is a starting point to expand from. Off and on for 3 or 4 years sounds like you're not on the same page. Sure you will always have feelings for him, that's normal. But they shouldn't get in the way of life or other relationships. If you like this new guy (and it sounds like you do) then you should pursue him. The thing here is that people change over time, you remember him as someone he's not anymore, and the reverse is probably true as well. I hope that helps, but ultimately you need do what is right for you, finding out what that is often the tricky part.