Would you be mad?
By dlkuku
@dlkuku (1935)
United States
March 22, 2007 7:11pm CST
A year ago I moved from my homestate, 500 miles away.
In that year, my sister has not called me, not once. I have called her at least once a month, until about 2 months ago when I spoke to my dad and I found out she was bad mouthing me to him.
This really hurt me, and I don't understand why she would do this, even my dad was upset when he found out that what my sister said wasn't true.
I find myself at times so hurt and angry and I can't even call her. She did send me a card for my birthday, a week late, but I didn't even call her and thank her, I am that upset with her.
I know I should resolve this with her but I am afraid if I call her I will really go off on her.
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6 responses
@iamdang (61)
• Philippines
23 Mar 07
there might be a subconscious sibling rivalry between you two. the best way to resolve this is to talk to her heart-to-heart. let out your anger, jealousy and all negative feelings. afterwards, have an open forum with the person who contributed to that envious feelings she has for you. your dad, perhaps.
forgiveness and understanding are essential.
good luck.
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@CaroleeKaufold (1853)
• United States
23 Mar 07
she sounds like she may be jelous of your good fortune
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@Trace86 (5030)
• United States
25 Mar 07
Did your dad ask her why she was saying bad untrue things about you? Does she have email? Even if she doesn't, write her an email and express everything and all the hurt and then when you aren't ready to kill her you can send her a letter or call her and talk calmly and rationally without ripping her a new one.
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
23 Mar 07
What was that saying mothers like to say? If you don't have anything good to say, don't say anything.I wouldn't call her. I' would wait for her to call you.Talk to your Dad and other family memebers, so you can see if she is still bad mouthing you. Do you share a friend with your sister?I would talk to her/him.Maybe your friend can find out why she is bad mouthing you. Good Luck.
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@dlkuku (1935)
• United States
23 Mar 07
Yeah, I think I will wait.
I am going to call my dad. I think I know why she did this, but I have no way of finding out for sure. And if I voice my thoughts on that and I am wrong then I will just look bad. I have told my husband my thoughts and he agrees with me. He says not to call her ever, but she is my sister, and I do love her, just right now I can't talk to her.
As for the friend thing, that is good advice except she doesn't really have any friends.
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@earth2jacq (1502)
• Philippines
23 Mar 07
Try sending a card back to her...ask her why she did it. Letters would do for now especially that you may not be able to control your emotions and you might flare up. So to avoid confrontations with raging temper it is best that you send her a letter. If she does not reply then the next best thing would be to appear at her doorstep and ask her personally.Or try to invite her to dinner then ask her.
@jayanvarkala (489)
• India
23 Mar 07
After all she is your sister know? Forget about what she is saying or thinking about you. If you want your sister you must be keep in touch with her. If you call her regularly i hope definitely she began to love you
