What do you think of mixed marriages?
By bad1981
@bad1981 (799)
United States
March 22, 2007 9:54pm CST
So what is your first reaction when you see people of two different races together and married? What do you think when they have kids together?
I am asking this because I am married to a black man and we have 2 beautoful children together, but sometimes when people look at us you can tell they dont approve or dont like it. So it bothers me, but I always say I dont care who they love so why should they care who I love.
Color is just that, a color! Why does it matter what color your partner is? Race to me isnt a big issue so why do some people make it to be such a big issue?
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56 responses
@lilaclady (28207)
• Australia
23 Mar 07
I am going to be very direct here, if two people are in love then colour should not even enter into it, it should not make a difference, children from mixed marriage is good the start of the old melting pot...so this is the good part of my response but the mixed marriages I think are a little not so good is the ones what we call mail order brides, so many men who lose their wives go straight out and get them selves a mail order bride, marriage should be because two people love each other.:(
@beautifulceiling (1300)
• United States
23 Mar 07
All racism is based in ignorance. I agree with you. Marriage is about love, not skin pigmentation. I know it has to be hard to be judged by ignorant people. I wish people would just get over it and worry about their own lives.
@lonewolfnan (4366)
• Canada
23 Mar 07
I am a believer that if someone can find love with another,then it is good.It does not matter to me whether it be male/female,male/male,female/female or male/shetland pony!As for different races,does it really matter?Again,if someone can find love with another,then all is good.
After second thoughts,I may have trouble with the male/shetland pony marriage.But the rest is true.
@sojournseeker (1244)
• United States
24 Mar 07
I totally agree with ya ! I am dating a black man, and I am careful to not assign African American to all cause some do not have relatives in that area so there is so descent involved, who has also been my friend for fifteen years. We do not have any children together, do not plan on having any, but still feel comfortable with each other to be a couple.
What others think or feel can sometimes ruffle my feathers but it is expected so I do not get entirely bent out of shape about it. My b/f and I do experience our own personal tribulations when culture clashes come between us on certain things but compromise is key in any relationship. We work on this and many other things, trivial and major. We are three years and three days apart on the zodiac wheel. Our compatibility takes a beating cause two fire signs can be volatile but when controlled enough, conversation speaks loudly and boldly. Good for the soul!
Congrats on bridging the gap between races and best of wishes to you and your family.
sharing the light,
Erica aka 'enlightenedpsych2'
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@ajinomoto23 (1057)
• Philippines
23 Mar 07
In today's society mixed marriages are more open. In olden times it is a crime. Social class are also issues in marriages. Parents do not approve such relationship and the children are greatly punished. Love conquers all. It seems love is not a respecter of race or class. Two people in love with each other is all that is important. Even today I know how the parents disapprove a relationship because of race.
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@gbolly54 (661)
• Nigeria
23 Mar 07
Loves knows no race or colour. So should marriage. Mixed marriage promotes international love and peace as well as fulfils God's plans. It also satisfies man's constant search for variety. However, mixed marriage is very difficult to carry through for a number of reasons, particularly those pertaining to conflicting cultures (including foods), and language differences. These differences and conflicts are accentuated where one of the partners has to relocate to live in the native land of the spouse. Notwithstanding these and other associated problems, mixed marriages should be encouraged rather than discouraged in the interest of world peace and love.
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@littlemissmistress (187)
• United States
23 Mar 07
In the same way that gender or age means nothing, so does color. As long as you love the person, nothing else matters.
I haven't seen much about interracial marriages as of late. I guess you are exposed to it because you are involved in one.
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@marciapw (64)
• United States
23 Mar 07
It doesn't bother me seeing a white person with a black person. I'm kind of used to it. My nephew is mixed. My boyfriend on the other hand does have a problem with. And I have no idea why. He don't even want our son going to a school with a lot of black people. But I'm like hey There's nothing wrong with it at all.
@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
23 Mar 07
When you married him, you made a bold statement. Didn't you know what you would be up against? Who cares what people think. If they look at you funny, look at them funny. You have got to get it together so you can be strong for your children.
You just wait 'til they start hearing that crap that ignorant people say. They are going to come home crying to you and you have to know what to say and you can't cry with them about this.
If you cry with them, you will say to them that something IS wrong and they will grow up hating themselves. Tell them how beautiful they are. Don't let them think that they are any less than anyone else. Besides, REAL love is color blind.
@JediSkipdogg (169)
• United States
24 Mar 07
I think two many people put looks onto couples. Black, white, green, it shouldn't matter. Just like a 100 lb woman marrying a 400 lb man. If the love is there, that's all that should matter.
I think too many still segregate in this country and some do it without knowing they are doing it. Personally, I'm appalled for anything when I hear the race card is played. Two people can be the final two candidates for a job, one black, one white, the white gets it, and all the sudden the race card is played. Sometimes it just comes down to a random pick. Race shouldn't matter for anything.
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@thefuture (1749)
• Nigeria
23 Mar 07
I must say Race have nothing, absolutely nothing to do with love, because love passes through a different direction that people can ever think of. Never get discouraged by folks are saying outthere, just maintain a positive relationship with your husband. I want to believe that both of you were not just married like that, but because love joined you together. Let that love that joined you together remain fresh. OK?. thanks
@sarahdell (130)
• United States
23 Mar 07
in my point of view as a 'non-married' individual, we shouldn't base the happiness of a couple in their race.. marriage is about love, understanding, and respect of the couples to each other.. for me, as long as your husband/wife does his or her role in the family, that is important.. and as for you, don't let other people's judgment affect your beautiful relationship with your family.. they are just envious of you.. don't think about it.. as long as you have your loving husband and your beautiful kids, it's all that matters.. good luck and GOD bless to your family..
@Arthurshall (24)
• United States
23 Mar 07
Why on Earth would you ask this question? You know no one has the balls to question you. Except for me. If you liked it so much you would not be asking for approval. I look at it like a grizzly bear and a polar bear. They are interchangable breeding wise but it ultimately is unnatural.
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@ynocenta (81)
• Romania
23 Mar 07
My opinion is: Mixed Marriage is verry difficult to carry through for a number of reasons particularly those pertaining to conflicting cultures, ex: foods, and language differences. these differences and conflicts are accentuated where one of the partners has to relocate to live in the native land of the spouse
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@sajeevforu (129)
• India
23 Mar 07
Racism is for losers...no matter who u r its love that binds all together..
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@monica1981 (466)
• United States
23 Mar 07
Race has never been an issue for me. I think it's great that you married someone outside of your race. Do you really care what others think of you? It's your life, and you're happy, so isn't that what really matters? If someone doesn't like it, that's their problem and not yours.
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@lightningMD (5931)
• United States
23 Mar 07
I dont think race matters what so ever....love is so hard to find that it sure doesnt matter what race...how old...or anything else just grab onto love and enjoy your life...just ignore anyone who tries to make you feel bad...unhappy people want everyone else to be unhappy too...
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@Chill_NYC (3)
• United States
23 Mar 07
I'm a black male who was married for 8 years to a half white/half phillipino women. I think people have a problem with mixed marriage because their still childish in the mind. Dispite being divorced for over 2 years I've never once resented marry her. We lived in San Diego around alot of military family so at home it was cool. Outside of our community we use to get "the looks". Didn't really bother me because most weren't man or women enough to say it to my face. I father to children with my ex and they are the most beautiful thing that ever happened to me
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@samanthapayne (52)
• Canada
23 Mar 07
Mixed marraige who cares get over it you cannot control who you fall in love with so why bother get a grip people find something else more upsetting like war and famine how about that thats important right?
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@samanthapayne (52)
• Canada
23 Mar 07
I am also married to a black man and I agree with biracial marriage whomever amkes you happy... that is the truth. If you are lucky enough to find love why waste it based on what the world will think.
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