long distance relationships

Long distance relationships can work out if both parties are willing to put in the effort to keep the lines of communication open and by making plans to see each other on holidays or major vacation time. It's about making the time for communication. Whether it's a once a week phone chat, emails, and letters, it can be done. However if only one person is placing all the effort to keep it going and the other person is just "too busy" or unavailable for contact then you may need to split up until you can be in the same country to have physical and emotional time together. Bottom line is if you two are meant to work out and end up together then you and her will create the circumstances to make that a reality. Do not fear the future and live wondering "what if". Focus on what you can control in your present and do the best you can to keep your relationship alive. If she loves you, she will meet you halfway. All the best, Zuri http://askzuri.blogspot.com

one of the pointers to make a long distance relationship work out is number one you should have communicatiions not only to your girl but also to her friends and family...

That is tough-I'm sorry the distance is taking a toll :( If I were you, I'd visit her as much as you could. On the phone you can practically feel the miles in between the two of you. If she's not putting in the effort, you may want to ask yourself if you think she'd do the same after you are married. A real commitment means TONS of effort. If only one of you is making an effort, it's not going to work. How long have you two been having this long distance engagement?

it's hard. and not fun. I had a boyfriend who didn't make much effort to contact me either although we both had internet connections and I gave him a phone card number from a card that I bought. Eventually I began to feel like he didn't want to be with me, wondered if there was someone else. Sounds like you need to have a heart to heart with your girlie and let her know that you want more contact. I think that one of the most important ways to keep a long distance relationship going is to have open lines of communication. If you don't talk or communicate well, then it will be really hard.

as you have said,she doesnt exert much effort in your relationship,then why are you bothered to continue with your relationship.love is a give and take process..you need to give your effort and she have to do so..absence makes the heart grows fonder,but being absent for so long makes the heart forgets..

myself and my husband used to have a long distance relationhip when we were not married yet. * but we're together now* we were in relationship for three years before he came here in the U.S, and i was left in the philippines. I myself that time has doubts if we can really make it. That was our first time to be apart, and that time i admit and my partner knows i dont't trust him that much. But it was a blessing in disguise actually, absence makes us realize more, how we miss, love & remain true with each other. And im proud to say we made it even we've been apart for a year, then when he got home *philippines* we decided to get married. In your case, the fact that you said you love her so much, then communicate with her as often as you can, emails, chat, phonecalls. In the case of your girlfriend, just don't jump into conclusion that she doesnt exert so much effort to contact you. Maybe she's still adjusting or something. But as long as you can communicate with her, then clarrify all your doubts, ask about how does she feels about your long distance relationship. Ask yourselves, are you both willing to pursue it? Have an open and honest communication, that is really relevant especially if you're in that kind of relationship. As long as your willing and you remain true. then that's it no questions ask, both of you will be fine =) good luck --jnet-;

I knwo.... and I can feel it...though I never had a far---off relationshiop.... my gf is always near to me but still when I don't meet her for one day I don't like it at all and feel my day as incomplete--so does she!!! So if we being near feel this way I know how can you people feel who are faroff from each other!!!

im telling you my friend long distance relationship is very hard, im saying based on my experience, most of the time long distance relationship fails. but just keep on communicating with each other, if you really love each other i think nothing can break your relationship apart.

maybe the key are keep on trust, understand each other and be patience ----------------- www.konconebudi.com

maybe the key are keep on trust, be patience, understand each other

Hey there.. Long distance relationships are very hard to manage for anyone really. I havent been in one in a few years but I can remember being in the one I was in and its very hard and both people have to be 100 percent ready for it. The problem with it is some people start to fade apart, or get lonely when they can only see each other once in awhile. All I can really say is you can express how you feel and put it out on the table really. The problem with long distance relationships are that when you need that person or you wanna see that person there not right down the road leading to being lonely than causing you to think about other things. But I wish you the best of luck with this and hope everything works out for you. There just really had to manage!!!

Me and my fiance were in a long distance relationship for about 8 months becuase he was going to college out of state. A lot of the time it would seem like I was making all the effort to contact him. I talked to him about it, then he started making a lot of the phone calls. Having a long distance relationship is really hard on your emotions, since you dont know what your partner is doing all the time. although I went out with my friends I would call him when I got home or in the morning if he didnt answer. Talking helps a lot .... but not to the point where you are nagging them. Just talk to her and ask why she doesnt call, she could have a reasonable explaination. If you really love a person you can get through anything.

if love exists in both,you will never worry,and you should trust your partner,you know,building trust with each other is the key to live together,or otherwise,disagreement and suspicion will disturb you all the time. the same situation goes for me ,we are aparted in different areas ,and there is almost no chance to meet every week,usually,to contact others by telephong and network,we firmly believe that it be not a problem to have our own life.the most important thing is to frankly communicate with her,and let her kown that you are missing her.

I am so sorry to hear that. Maybe she is really busy, but she should still talk to you as often as she can. I don't know all the specifics, but sounds like she isn't as serious about the relationship as you are. My husband is leaving to go accross the country for 2 months & I plan to call him everyday. I would be really worried about him if we didn't speak to each other everyday.

Well it sounds she has less interest now or she had before. But best for you is to express her feelings and than check how much she wants you ?

Its extremely difficult to have a long distance relationship. I am in one too and most times iam very confused. i dont if iam coming or going. Infact i posted a discussion too asking for help. My boyfriend too doesnot make too much of an effort and also there is the time difference so iam not sure. If u find a good advise to let me know. All the best anyways :)...'more effort' is the catch phrase!

Communication is really the key to a successful long-distance relationship. The next time you are able to contact her, maybe you should tell her how you feel and make specific arrangements with her on how to contact each other and how often, etc. Ask her how she truly feels about you and if she's willing to stick it out. Also, arrange visits if it's possible. Don't forget to make her feel that she is still part of your world even though you're not physically together. If both of you are serious in keeping the relationship, it will work despite the distance.

I am being engaged in a long distance relationship too. I feel no comfortlessness except for missing my girlfriend. This situation will last for a while because our study won't finish in two years. Am I in a worse condition than you? But we love each other so deep that we just don't think it a problem. Everyday we either chat through telephone or see each other through internet. We know everything each other does everyday. We are not together, but we feel that we are.

Dear Gabz145 Im also having a long distance relationship and i love the guy madly but you know what i have found a very strange way of communication and it is called telepathy coz if your love is true n deep no need to worry just keep imagining her all the time and she wont be able to elope anywhere else i also do it and keep him all tied up in the unseen rpoe of my love...you too try it and do tell me the results....Good luck shezah

Well you know what they communication IS everything. you need to find a way to communicate with this woman maybe she is taking your feelings for granted? love is very complicated whether you are apart or toghter!! take the time to think about what you want to tell her and sit down and put it in a letter emotions tend to run deeper on paper..... what is the worst that could happen?