How old were you when you first got married?
By bluemestizo
@bluemestizo (429)
United States
March 22, 2007 10:10pm CST
I first got married very young at the age of 23. It didn't work out and I divorced last year. My ex-wife was prejudice to filipinos and physically abusive -- What are the odds of that? Therefore I've met a beautiful person in my life, makes me much happy, better times and we laugh more. We've known each other a year already, she's filipina and they make better lovers and we are so adaptive together. We hope to marry next year if possible.
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54 responses
@prakasharige (1129)
• India
23 Mar 07
We here, get married for only one time. Therefore there is no question of first marriage or second marriage. I was about 28 years at the time of my marriage.
@Mickey39 (7)
• United States
23 Mar 07
We got married when I was 20, he was 24. We are happily married almost 21 years later! I don't think age makes a difference either, but I do believe that you should marry for love and not for the feeling of being with that person. Touching and all that goes with it won't hold a marriage together, especially through hardships. I was in the hospital (in 2005) for almost a month, and my hubby was right there by my side through everything! I couldn't fix my hair, put make up on, take a shower or even brush my teeth on a regular basis - yeah, I know, gross! The staff tried to keep me cleaned up though! You have to love the person (and be willing to die for them, if necessary) not how you feel with them, that's true love!
@ethanmama (1745)
• Philippines
23 Mar 07
I only got married once, at 34 years of age, after a 5 year relationship.
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@im_anna (717)
• Philippines
23 Mar 07
i got married a months shy of being 28 years old. I met my husband when I was 19 & we became best of friends at first before being a couple. Because of family responsibilities, which is very typical here in the Philippines, and so many other reasons, marriage was put on hold until 8 years after.
@eeseharden (603)
• United States
23 Mar 07
I got married when I was 23 years old the first time. I got married to someone who was about to be sent off to Operation Desert Storm and it was a huge mistake. It only lasted less than two years. I moved back home and began dating my first love at age 25 and we got married five years later. We now have three beautiful little girls and I've never been happier in my life. good luck....
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@sanell (2112)
• United States
24 Mar 07
cool, I got married at around 23/24 and my husband was 24/25...we have been married for going on 11 years now...(11 years in August)....it is really cool to find your true match and I am lucky I found mine when I did. We both know it too. we are still going strong and we have been through a lot together sometimes it feels like we have already hit 20 years. It is kind of fun to think that we will actually still be around and together for a 30 year anniversary even maybe a 40 year anniversary....I know when we hit 20 years we will be like "Whoa" how did this happen?we are just half way to that 20 year anyway.
@smilingurvashi (1151)
• India
23 Mar 07
good that you got a great partner now and that you took a decision of moving ahead in life for better life!i got married at 23.
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@azilem_01 (5)
• United States
23 Mar 07
I got married at the age of 25, that was last year. i personally find it hard to be in an interracial relationship. I did marry a filipino- chinese guy instead. I love him dearly. It all started out in a long distance relationship and after 2 years, he proposed and eventually we got married. No regrets up to now. I am very happy and contented with what I have. I don't have to adjust that much because we have the same traditions and cultures. Congratulations in advance and the best of luck to you!
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@stacy624 (2776)
• Canada
23 Mar 07
I was 18 when I got married, I would have to say I was still really young and it wasnt the right thing to do! I was married for 5 years then divorced (best thing that could have happened for my kids sake) But I guess we all live and learn from our mistakes.
Good Luck with your exciting Plans for the new year
Stacy
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@kaperkitty (1097)
• Canada
23 Mar 07
I was 25 and it lasted 4 years.we both had promising careers and a bright futures then suddenly within 5 months he went into a depression and didn't get out of bed for almost a year he lost his business the car our home, suddenly i was working 70+ hours a week..the strain and resentment set in and home became a war zone.you would open the fridge and there would be post-its on the food to say which was who's..to said living there was hell was a huge understatement.i could not understand how after a year he could suddenly be well enough to play in a band drink every night but oh man i can't go back to work it stress me out man..good grief we made it through our last Christmas and it was all just enough i asked him to leave which he said he would by this time we are living in a drafty old apt and I'm still trying to work my management position job while he calls 20+ times a day to ask what i'[m going to make for supper when i get home...so the day i ask him to leave he says yeah he can crash at his moms, i leave for work i come to nothing no TV no couch and the poor dog sitting on the floor..he even took the groceries out of the cupboard...to say it was too early isn't right it just wasn't the right person but now young people aren't pressured to get married before 30 like my generation was..so they can make much better decisions..still all in all I'm pro marriage
Cheryl
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@daryljane (3406)
• Philippines
23 Mar 07
i dont thinkg there a right age to get married...the thing si are you ready to live your life committed to the someone enough for you give up all the things youre doing when your single and ask maturely and being a married person...if youre not ready for that yet and still have some feeling of one day fooling around...then dont get married...wait for that time to come..marriege for me is something that id want to do when time comes that ive outgrown all the things that a single person wanted to explre..its different when you explore when youre married, it might end up to an argument..at least if youre single, you only have yourself to question the consequences..
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@Starline (681)
• United States
23 Mar 07
I'm in my first and hopefully only marriage. My husband is filipino american like you, and I can't believe how you were able to find a wife that's prejudice to filipinos, that's almost to laugh at... but I want to congratulate you to finding a new girl and are marrying her!
@blueyes (56)
• Canada
23 Mar 07
Well i was 21 when i got married and had our first child at the age of 22 and the second one by the age of 24. Then the last one i had is when i was 28. By the time i was 30 he decided that he didn't want to be married any more and left. Its been 8 yrs since hes been gone. I have been in another relationship now for 7 yrs now. I am happier, this man i have now will stand up for me for anything, but my ex,,, nope he wouldn't even dream of it. Now i have a child by him his first and he still glad that he met me.
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