Adoption vs Foster care
By drmt57
@drmt57 (295)
United States
March 23, 2007 9:01am CST
Do yo think a child should have a say in wheather he/she want to be adopted or stay in foster care. I can understand a child being adopted from birth has no say, but when a child is in foster care and is with a family that love him/her, treat them as if they are family but does not want to adopt and the chile love that family and want to remain with that family, is it fair to the child to remove him/her and give them to someone who want to adopt them even if they would like to stay with the family they are with.
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@camar_lyn (1028)
• Singapore
23 Mar 07
I personally think that both parties have to sit down and have a heart to heart talk. If neither wants to start talking, nobody will know.
Of course the ideal situation is to stay with the foster family if the child is totally comfortable and felt that he is already part of that family. On the other hand however, this family could just be a link to a better world.
Or, the family would want to provide the same love, care, concern and a loving family evironment to others who are just if not more unfortunate than this child. In a nutshell, they want to reach out to as many children as possible to give them hope that it is not the end of the world.
In fact, it might just be the beginning of a great life! God Bless!- Lyn
@loved1 (5328)
• United States
23 Mar 07
Boy, that is a really hard question. It may seem wrong to take a child out of a loving foster home, but really what a child needs is stability and permanence. If that foster home is never going to be that child's permanent home and those foster parents are never going to be that childs support system for life, then don't you think he ought to go to a family that pledges to love and support him forever? I have never done foster care or adopted so I am no expert, but I do work with children and I know that security is what they really need.
