what to do?
By brandybaker
@brandybaker (31)
March 23, 2007 9:52am CST
My child cam home from visiting her dad last weekend and told me that her step mother was measuring her and told her she was getting fat. I just could believe my ears. She now wants to go on a diet and start going exercises for kids.
This is not the first time that this woman has done something to really *excuse me here* PISS me off. I don't really say anything to her father anymore because it just starts arguments that I really don't care to get into. Everytime I say anything, he chooses her side over what I have to say. I know that's what he is suppose to do(it's his wife) , but when my childs feelings are on the line I don't know what to do. He should be upset that our daughter is feeling like crap because of something his wife said to her. I can't keep her away from her dad and his family. I just want to shield her from this unkind behavior.Have any advise?
1 response
@lordwarwizard (35747)
• Singapore
23 Mar 07
Hmm.. if you ignore the fact that you are her mother and steps into a pair of rational shoes, is she getting fat? If so, then I guess there is nothing much to be said.
Otherwise, it might be that her stepmother is trying to cuddle up to her. She is trying to impress upon your daughter her own version of size and beauty. There is no right or wrong here - it all boils down to opinions. But I guess, as her mother, you have the final say. Likewise, your husband would have a fair say.
But ultimately, the body is your daughter and she will be deciding.
@brandybaker (31)
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23 Mar 07
No my daughter is not fat. She is a perfectly healthy 6 year old. She's active and happy. I just don't know what to do. Maybe you're right about her fathers wife trying to instill upon her what she thinks is beautiful. But all in all that's wrong. I don't want my child to grow up feeling bad about her body. Nor do I want her to start judging people by appearance.
