Praise'em

@34momma (13882)
United States
March 23, 2007 1:50pm CST
Do you praise your children? Do you tell them how wonderufl they are? do you let them know how much you love them and how important they are to you? I have had the chance over the last 24 hours to tell my children how amazing I think they are. Yet this is something I do all the time. Is Praise about of your family life?
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@yanjiaren (9031)
23 Mar 07
Yes I always try to praise my sons and my nieces as much as I can. We often find it easier to pick fault than to give praise when due and this is not good for the self confidence of the kids. Quite rightly said we should praise'em more often than we do.
@34momma (13882)
• United States
23 Mar 07
that is so right! that is why in my house i have a i love you rule. we have to say I love you to each other at least 4 times a day. We have to hug each other. It is a great way to keep our family bond tight and close
• United States
23 Mar 07
I think that the I Love You rule is great! We don't have it as a rule, but we are always telling each other I Love You in our family. Hugs are a huge part of our lives as well. No one leaves this house without getting hugs and love from everyone else. It almost makes me sad to see some of our friends that never show any type of affection towards their children :(
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@34momma (13882)
• United States
23 Mar 07
it's very sad that parents don't make sure their own children know they are loved. i am very proud of my family and what we have built. I have a 17 yr. old son who doesn't mind saying i love you and giving me hugs in front of his friends. to me, that is a test of our love and bond with each other
@missyd79 (3438)
• United States
26 Mar 07
i always tell my son how much he means to me and that i could not live without him. for everything little thing he does i tell him how proud i am of him and that he is such a big help to me.
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@missyd79 (3438)
• United States
2 Apr 07
he is my life and i do not know where i would be without him. I just want him to know that, and though i can not finacially get him everything he wants, i can only love him and tell him how great he is. i hope he loves me for what i do for him.
@34momma (13882)
• United States
26 Mar 07
way to go missyd79. that is so awsome!! i bet he loves that and you feel good telling him how great he is
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• Canada
3 Apr 07
If I had children, I'd definitely praise them. Parents are too quick to praise their children when they are not there, and complain or nag when they are. If parents said to their children what they say to friends and strangers about their children, the world would be a better place, and children would grow up to become better people.
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@34momma (13882)
• United States
4 Apr 07
you are 100% right. i found myself doing that and thought i should be saying that to my boys. when i started to do that i noticed the changes in them to want to do more of the right thing so i can say it again and again. now i have two great boys who love to see mommy smile. and all because i said great job. how simple is that
@Savvynlady (3684)
• United States
18 Apr 07
34Momma, When my kids were little, I did my utmost to praise them for the little things they did; These days with them being teenagers, I don't. But you have a good point; I let them know I love them and all, but that is about it.You bring a valid point.
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@34momma (13882)
• United States
19 Apr 07
i have a teenager he is a great kid. he has his moments, but they are very short lived! i know it can be a bit much at times, but that is when you have to get in there even more and just be love.
@kelandy (114)
• United States
18 Apr 07
I believe that praising your children regularly and as often as possible, is a great foundation which rewards itself for years to come. I have a 3 year old child and he gets a big thrill when I praise him for the smallest achievements. I believe it is such great incentive for them in the tender years. Keep at it and I wouldn't say you'd be sorry at all. Good luck.
@34momma (13882)
• United States
19 Apr 07
good for you, it works and it gives them a sense of self! enjoy your son
@Woodpigeon (3710)
• Ireland
20 Apr 07
I should praise my kids more, but I shudder to think how big their heads would get. They are good at a lot of things, and they are handsome and ineteresting and the little devils know it. I like my kids, and I think they know it. I just want to make sure their heads remain able to fit into the house!
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@34momma (13882)
• United States
20 Apr 07
LOL. I know what you mean but i don't think that happens when it comes from love fro, their mother. i think when you praise them and tell them how great they are teaches them to see the greatness in themselves. it gives them the tools to go out into the world and but the world on notice that they are not going to settle for second best, cause my mother told me so! LOL
@katyzzz (2897)
• Australia
2 Apr 07
No, I think I fall down on that one. But many err in telling their children they can never do anything wrong. It's always the other person's fault. I do think that I could have done a lot better with the praise them line, 'tho.
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@34momma (13882)
• United States
2 Apr 07
there is no time like right now. start today, let them know today right now how much you love them. let them know that you are proud of them. not only will it make them feel good but it will make you feel wonderful too
@hope1976 (47)
• United States
23 Mar 07
I do. All the time! We are always telling our kids how proud of them we are. We have a child who's ADHD/ODD so for him this is extremely important. We never did as much, but once we started more and more, it has made such a difference in his attitude and self confidence. I love the fact that praising them on a job well done, no matter how small it seems helps them along with their independence. I know that may sounds silly, but I really believe that with that self confidence children are more sure of themselves, which leads to that independence. Now, don't get me wrong, accepting that independence can be tough at times, but it's all worth it when I take a step back and think about the big picture. Nothing is more satisfying! You think as an adult, we love to be told we're doing a good job. A child needs that even more!
@34momma (13882)
• United States
23 Mar 07
there is nothing silly about telling your children how great you think they are or what a great job they are doing! tell them all day every day
@disvachic (10117)
• United States
21 Apr 07
I praise my children all the time.I let them know that I love them and that Im very proud to have them in my life.When they do good in school I acknowledge that I am proud,when they do chores I tell them good job,whatever it may be,I tell them how beautiful they are and all.
@ana1361 (98)
• Sweden
23 Mar 07
yeah i think you do the best thing .well done. becouse by this way you make them satisfiy from they life when they get that yu love them
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@34momma (13882)
• United States
24 Mar 07
i just want my kids to do better then me. if they can do that, then i have done my job
@lightningMD (5931)
• United States
2 Apr 07
absolutely..i praise my kids for every small accomplishment and encourage them to strive for things even if they think they are to hard or out of reach...i tell them your only limits are the limits you place upon yourself...
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@34momma (13882)
• United States
2 Apr 07
see now that is what i am talking about. everything and anything is possible. just know it to be fact and go for it. i wish that my parents did that. I mean they always told me that they loved me and were proud of me. but i wish that they encouraged me to shoot for the stars. that is what i tell my children, shoot for the stars and if you only reach the moon then you have done an amazing job!
@pangeacat (619)
• United States
23 Mar 07
I praise my children every day. :) They are my little miracles, and I want them to really, truly know and understand that which they never will (until they have kids of their own) ~ how very much I love and appreciate them. I want them to know how proud I am of them, and everything they do, and say, and are!
@34momma (13882)
• United States
23 Mar 07
now that is what i am talking about!! it's so important right. just to let them know that they are loved and even when they do something wrong they are still loved and wanted