How late should you let your 16 year stay out?

It sounds like you are describing my 16 yr old. I don't let him drive past 9 since it is the law, but I let him stay out until 10 on school nights and 11 on weekends. Once in a while if they are doing something special I will cave to 12 on weekends.

For me, personally, I don't really believe in curfues. By the time a child has reached the age where a curfue is generally put in place, s/he has reached the age where s/he should be making their own decisions about how they want to live their lives. Yes, they need encouragement and discipline, and parenting still. However, they also need the freedom and independence to prove that they have the capability of reaching adult-hood by the time they're 18 years old. I believe that a child should let you know when they will be in, and be in by that time, no later. If there is a problem with getting home by that time, they absolutely need to call before the agreed upon time, and let you know an alternate time. That's just me though, and I am happy that you have a son that is so well-behaved! :)

Okay I understand a school night at ten. But on the weekend at twelve? It's the freaking weekend. I'm fifteen and I stay out later than that on the weekend. Not saying that my parents don't care for me but they let me live. I mean I'm not against you. It's not a crime to care for someone.

When I was raising my children it was 10:00, but of course that was before curview and it was midnight on the weekends, I did this with my children all through high school, I got some lip about it when they were seniors but I told them they could stay out all night and for days when they moved away from home, that seemed to quiet them down. Good luck.

Well that's a very good thing he does great in school and isn't any trouble. I seem to think for 16 years old though that's really reasonable 10pm on school nights and 12 midnight on the weekends. Honestly he should be lucky when I used to live at home and was at that age my school nights bedtime was 9pm and weekend was only 10:30 to 11pm So I would say that's a very reasonable time frame you have set, however if you would like to give him an extra hour or so, then that would be up to you.

when my older siblings were at that age, they had be home by midnight. Unless it was for something work related.Then they could stay out until the finished their job. Then they had to come right back home! I hope this helps you out!

Up until I was 17 I had to be home at 10. At 17 it got bumped to 12 but that was only after lots of yelling haha. Coming from my perspective as a teen, 9 and 10 seemed rather silly to me. I think 12 is a good time. Not too late, not too early. I don't think I'd want my daughter out that late when she's older, but I might let her if she's as good a student as I was. Best wishes!

At age 16 my curfew was 8 pm on weekdays and 11 pm on weekends. Although im sure i hemmed and hawwed alot about it then, i think it was a good time for a person at that age. After 8 pm i had a couple hours to do work, chores, read and get ready for the next day. Kind of a wind down time for me. And that worked out really well. The only time i was allowed to stay out later was when i had a school event that lasted late. Concerts or sport events.

I don't think you are asking too much of him to be home by 10 on a school night, and midnight on the weekends. Maybe if he continually shows up on time and doesn't give you much trouble, you could extend it by 30 minutes or an hour as a reward? That is what my parents did for me. If I was home by curfew every night, didn't constantly complain about it or call and try to stay out later, etc, they would extend my curfew. My parents were EXTREMELY liberal with me by my junior year of high school, so I am probably not the best example, but my curfew was extended until 12 or so on school nights, and I didn't have a curfew on the weekends or in the summer. By my senior year, I was told I could come home (or not come home, whatever I wanted), whenever, as long as I was quiet and didn't wake anyone. I usually told them when I left for the night what time I was expecting to be home, or if I wasn't planning on coming home that night, so they wouldn't worry. I also usually called them to tell them if plans changed too much. I hope that helps a little. I'm not exactly a "normal" case, but I really like the way that my parents did it, because I developed a lot of independence, which helped when I came to college because drinking, staying out late, having no curfew, etc wasn't new for me, so I didn't have to go as crazy as a lot of the other freshmen...

I believe that a cerfew should depend on a lot of things. For example: how responsible the child is, what the law is for there age in your city, the type of people they hang out with, and their ability to make good decisions. I believe midnight on the weekends is good for a responsible young man. And if a student is out after 9 on a school night the only thing he will find to do is trouble anyway. I think you made good decisions here.