i hate my parents!

Oops, I'm writing this again because I don't thing my first attempt worked. First of all, because you have two other children who seem to be doing well YOU must be doing a good job. In my experience, if the majority of the children in the house have significant issues then I look to the parenting skills. In this case I can see that this is a different issue. Second, name calling and provoking older siblings is fairly common. Just use your normal parenting skills to give the older child skills to ignore name calling (ignore ignore ignore!) and explain to the youngest that privileges will be withheld if she does it. Trying to PUT a 12 yr old into timeout just creates powerstruggles. It is more effective to withhold computer time, a cell phone, going out, or talking to friends on the phone. As for the angry outbursts -- your daughter is hitting the age when it has become quite apparent to her that her life is UNFAIR! She sees what her older sisters are able to accomplish physically and (more important) socially and she is angry. She is releasing all that anger in the safest place in her life (at home where you will always love her GOOD FOR YOU MOM) That is why she is not displaying the same behaviors at school - it is not safe. You need to do two things. You need to get a therapist for your daughter where she can learn, not only how to express that anger more appropriatly, but just where the anger is really coming from. Once you find a therapist then turn the appointment day or evening into a "date night" for the two (or three is dad is willing) of you. After the session, go for dinner, go windowshopping (but DO NOT buy anything for her - this is not a good thing to start), see something she is interested in. The object of the time is to spend quality one-on-one time focussing on her. She will look forward to the time and you will come to learn a lot about your girl. Because of the physical nature of her anger it is soooo important that you get that outside help! One last point - Is your daughter involved in any social groups with other teens and preteens who have dwarism? Peer Group is defined as people with which you have something in common. She needs to socialize with others who have the same interests and issues as she does. I hope this is helpful. Take care.