Stepchildren, and fighting... Does it ever end...

Been a step parent for many years, unsure why your hubby is not siding with you but the best you can do is not complain to him any further since he obviously is not helping and see what you can do on your own. I know it is hard cause he is so disrespectful ( I hate that ) but you can find a weakness ( all kids have them ) that he enjoys and get involved with him in it to get some kind of bond between the two of you, you will need this to get him and your husband on your side, currently neither one is, the boat always goes faster with more help. Good luck with him, I have raised a few stepchildren and 2 children of my own, it always helps to have a point of common bond in this time of their life, to at least get them to come to you to talk, once there just be blessed with the discussion. Just remember everything you do he will remember when he grows up so make it memorable and positive.

Hey Hunny!! I know this one is a hard one, so as usual I am just going to tell you what I think, and as usual if u don't agree u can tell me so ;) I think that it is hard for you, really because the "Step-Son" (hard not to use his name) is VERY rude and disrespectful, I think the fact that he is the same to all of you in the household, and not you specifically, is in some small way a bonus, because it lets you know that it is not you speciffically that he has an issue with. He has learned to fight "dirty" that is why he tells you about the choosing him over you and the boys thing. I don't think that ur hubby would have ever said that. I think he just feels guilty because he has a life with you and the boys, and his son is off over with his mother, and has no male role modle. None of this is a REASON, just excuses! I think that ur hubby can relate to his oldest, and even though he treats you guys poorly when he is there, I think that ur hubby thinks that is kind of his fault because he wasn't there to help raise him. I think that as far as the two beautiful babies that you share together now, he has idea's about how he wants them raised, but doesn't feel comfortable with them on a communication level, because he may not know the things to say to them. The relationship he shares with you, well that is another story, and no I don't necessarily think you should leave, I know how much you love him and how far you guys have come together, and I also know how much he loves you. He NEEDS his meetings, and I think alot of the reason you become a target for him when he gets home, is because he has no one to talk to, to B*tch at about the crappy things in his life, to vent about his take on a fight the two of you had. He is alone in dealing with things, and when we are hurting we tend to, by human nature take it out on the ones we love the most. I think that perhaps you guys should maybe look into some couples counselling or even a marriage enrichment group. God Bless You! As I always say, You know that whatever you choose I will be there right beside you, just like I always have ;)

I am very saddened to hear this dear. I have been though all that crap with kids too. But, my husband and I side with eachother, and that's that.Good luck sweetie. I don't know what to advise you, as you have to live with the choice, and it will not be easy.

Hun, if you need a place, you always have a home here, no matter how we're getting along at the time, no matter what, i'm always here for you.... If this is something you want to try and work out, go for it, see if there's a way you can make him see what he's doing, and how it's causing problems, he needs to realize that not only are you pregnant, but with a little extra stress, you could be thrown on bed rest or something... Right now, just think about you, the up coming baby, and the boys, If this is causing problems for all of you, making the boys sad all the time, or putting you in a more stressful position then ever before, and you think it could start doing damnage, there's lots of places you could go, lots of ways you could start your life anew with your kids. And we all know you can do it, Your not only the best mother i know, but the strongest woman i have ever met.