Midnight Coffee - is it an invitation for much more
By winterose
@winterose (39887)
Canada
March 23, 2007 5:22pm CST
About 20 years ago, I was a member of a single parent association and the discussion came up quite frequently about inviting someone up for coffee after midnight and what does it mean.
Basically for a woman the thought was this, you meet a nice man at the dance and it is late and he offers to drive you home. You appreciate his offer and invite him up for coffee as a thank you gesture. For the woman it was just a gesture of thank you and a few minutes to talk and get to the nice man.
The men however felt it was an invitation for a night of romance.
How do you feel about a woman inviting a man up for coffee after the dance, or movie or any other occasion for that
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5 responses
@lordwarwizard (35747)
• Singapore
24 Mar 07
Maybe this happens too often in movies. :P
In movies, such gestures are often taken to be what you mentioned - a night of romance. If you really want to thank him, say instead that you will buy him coffee the next time you meet. Or, if you have coffee places near your house, buy him a coffee there then walk home the short distance.
Sometimes, you can read what kind of guy he is too. Not all guys are looking for one night stands or nights of romance in those circumstances! :P
@winterose (39887)
• Canada
24 Mar 07
I(t happens in real life too, I explained the single parent group in my discussion, there were some really weird stories that came out of it, but down to earth ones, things that happened. As I said the men and women had different opinions on the reason for coffee.
@mdarma (868)
• Singapore
25 Mar 07
Coffee after midnight there could be many meaning to this invitation. If the invitation is just to say thank you or to get to know better. Then the place that one go for the coffee, can tell the other party where the line is drawn..
I guess if it is just to get to know better, home are strictly out of bound, cause it gives lots of ideas. Why invite trouble or problems. Have the coffee in a coffee house and what ever thanks can still be said and no funny ideas will go through ones mind and it is save.
If you want to take the relationship to go further then the next coffee can be in your house. Remember as a lady, it must be you who decide on the location
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@Grandmaof2 (7579)
• Canada
24 Mar 07
I think at one time it was innocently looked upon as a nice gesture. To day things are different and if it were me I would not invite this fellow in unless I was OK with whatever he may be thinking.
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