Should married people say they have crushes?

It depends a LOT on the personality of the husband/wife in particular. Some people don't mind at all, others take it very personally. Me, I know my girlfriend is extremely jealous, so I try my best to avoid any commentary that might go in that direction, except when I'm clearly joking. And I'm kinda jealous myself, so I wouldn't be pleased to see that either.

I'm a lot like you in the sense that my hubby and I trust eachother completely. In fact we trust eachother so much we can even joke about crushes! I don't really say it all that often in front of him because I don't want him to feel bad, and I think he is the same way but once in a while we slip and it ends up being a joke in the end!

As far as your reationship goes in harmony you may never fall in this kind if acts. You should love your own husband throught your life. Af far as your crush is concerned it only happens when you make yourself to do so. Because of your too broad thinking you are bound to fall in this kind of a crush. For suppose there is this thing you really hate it to eat and if someone forces you to eat, you'll not. Why? Because you don't like it. So the reason behind this falling is your own thinking. MIND YOU....

I've never been a "crushy" kind of person, but I don't think it is a bad thing, so long as you don't plan to act on it. I would feel comfortable telling my BF that I had a "crush" on someone that I didn't really know (like a movie star or something); I probably wouldn't say it if it was someone that I actually had contact with, like a co-worker or friend, just because it might make things a little weird whe we all hung out. Mutually, I certainlly would not feel threatened if my boyfriend had a crush on someone "unattainable." I probably wouldn't even mind if it was even someone he really knew because he has made it so clear how much he loves me.

I don't worry about it as long as he tells me about it, it's hiding things that makes me nervous. My husband and I do discuss who we have crushes on. It's a way of getting to know each other better, and we see it as harmless fun. It isn't like either of us is going to act on a crush, our marriage is far to important to give up for a silly temporary thing like that.

I think it is fine to have a crush even you are married as long as you do not do something unloyal to your husband. But if you have a crush, does it mean that you like him or just want to make friend with him? It is hard to tell your husband that you have a crush and it is nornal for your husband to think that you fall in love with other people...

i would feel betrayed if my husband had a crush on someone else.you should not have a crush on someone if your married i understand people may find someone else attractive but not to have a crush on someone.

To tell you the truth if you are married and have another crush on someone -- can you really say you love your husband? If my girlfriend, soon to be my wife, said she has another crush in her life -- I would not like that idea and would develop issues of faithfulness. Even if I did the same to my girl she wouldn't like that idea. Honestly your husband letting you have that choice -- That's very odd and downright no logic since both of you are married. Usually people that allow that are usually swingers.

yup some married say that they have a crushes......crush means only u like the person and u admire him or her......im i right?........what do u suggest.....

Crushes are a healthy exercise of our imaginations, as long as you keep them in perspective. A crush should not turn into an unhealthy obsession. Having crushes on movie stars or other public figures is mostly an expression of sincere admiration. People should be flattered that others admire them and maybe in some way it makes them more conscious of how they appear to others and makes them behave in a more upstanding fashion. Haven't seen it work with many politicians yet though...:}

I honestly don't know how I would feel about this. I'm in a "troubled" relationship right now, so it may have a different effect on myself than it would others. Oddly enough, I seem to have a "crush" on someone now that I have met online. Not here though, on MySpace. I haven't mentioned it to my partner yet, so we'll see. If it were the other way around and I was being told they had a crush, I don't think it would bother me so much seeing as the relationship is rocky right now anyhow.

Literally speaking, its okay for me for married couples to say they have crushes. After all, its only a crush thing, a simple admiration of someone. But this admiration have limitations as we say. We dont want issues like this affect the relationship and trusts of two people. Its different if that crush leads to a feeling deeper and much more deeper than just a simple crush.

It depends upon the personality of your husband.It's normal you have crushes and you're right it's not a serious thing. As long as you don't go beyond your limitations.It's much fun if you share your crushes with your husband or vice versa because you can also treat your husband as your best friend. It's okay with me if my husband had a crush on someone else. At least you will be challenged in improving yourself because your basis are the qualities that your partner like about that person.

i would say that if it's just a crush it doesn't really matter. if your husband's good with it, then everything's fine. it's pretty normal to admire people even when you are in a relationship as long as it doesn't go anywhere farther than that.

I'm sure some people would be offended, and are going to be offended. Who cares? They are not your spouse and that's whose feelings you should worry about. If I heard my husband say he had a crush, I would probably fall over from the fact that he admitted it, lol. But as far as worry about it? Never.

having a crush is just normal ..but in part i will feel bad or a little bit jealous if my husband will have a crush and he wouldnt tell me who..if he kept it secret then maybe theres a motive behind so..being open to each others in a couple is good...and thats what were doing and practicing to make us more grow and strong..i too have crushes and i told him..he just shrugged it off coz he trusted me and like wise too..

I dont think a crush is a HUGE deal married or not. I think its worse when say you act on the crush. So to say you got a crush its normal. I hear it is even if you are married. Just dont act on that crush and its okay yeah ;)

With my honey and me, we never did discusss about liking someone else or having crushes, i havent opened that topic with him, i dont think it would be ok with him. Personally "crush" in the schoold days is harmless such as my crushes from TV, cartoons, people who lives FAR away and even MyLot members too because you cant actually meet up wth them. However, i think If my crush is near me, let's say in my work place that can be dangerous because I will see him all the time... and because he is my crush... i get distracted whenever he passes by and somehow i believe GUYS observe this... thats why I dont agree having crushes with people i interact with. I love my honey so much that i always announce that to everyone i meet so that they would know im committed already and that they would not even think of asking me out or anything. Whenever we have team building and they would ask "Who is the one person that makes a difference in my life all the time?" I would always answer MY HONEY because i was once told... "the WIFE's Home is her HUSBAND" ... so MY HOME is my HONEY... My life can't be happy without My HOME... I cant live without my HOME... thats how much i love my HONEY... HE completes my LIFE. :P

Having crushed even if one is already maried is ok, crushes is like a sort appreciation to a person. Its ok with me if ever my husband to be had a crush on someone no big deal anyways im the wife.

My husband and I joke about fancing famous people and we find it quite funny. We can do this as we both know nothing will ever happen with a famous person. I think it would be a completely different matter if it was a "real life" person. I dont have a crush on anyone and I dont think he does - at least I hope he doesnt. I think it is okay for any married person to find someone attractive as long as they dont do anything about it. They just recognised that someone is good looking and then move on and stay loyal to their spouse.