Hubby has no sense of time
By nangkasuy
@nangkasuy (83)
Philippines
March 23, 2007 11:52pm CST
I am most irritated with my husbands time management skills. It's like he has no sense of time at all. Setting appointments but still arriving hours late. Giving lots of excuses why he is late that for me is all BS. When he has a project to finish, he prefers to cram it up at the last minute. Then getting all upset when something goes wrong or the kids makes a noise. Blaming everyone else for his delay and unability to meet a deadline. Everyone else is at fault except him! When I try to help him with his time management, he gets all pissed off and say I'm nagging.
Just right now, he asked for an extension for a deadline on a paper he is doing (which I am helping) and he got the requested extension. Now instead of doing his paper, he is outside with his collection.
I know you can't teach an old dog new tricks. And I know he may just be doing a breather, a stress relief from the paper. But I am just irritated! He hassles everybody and none of it is his fault.
I'm just venting... but if you want to share your own points of view, please do so.
4 responses
@sampaguita (10)
• Philippines
4 May 07
Well, all men are all the same. It gets worst as they get older especially when they are married. They usually depend on someone, in such cases, their wives. However, I suggest don't help him because he doesn't really need your help on his paper because he is just blame you and says that you are nagging him. They are not in the process of having a sensitive on their love one's feelings and on time management. Besides, you told that how can you teach old dog new tricks.
I also suggest that you just concentrate on loving yourself and beautification yourself and most of all caring with tender loving for your children.
Mare, you can do it.
@zing_i (269)
• United States
26 Mar 07
Its all because they dont take things seriously and they leve everything on others.
They have a feeling oh i will do it later, and that later never comes
The only solution to it is they have to be more serious about things and they need to act intanly and give hear to the things we wife tell them
@im_anna (717)
• Philippines
25 Mar 07
most men are like that, just like my husband before. he doesn't know how to prioritize, he doesn't know time management, he spends so much time on unnecessary things, unnecessary situations/circumstances, these are one of his many weaknesses. it is hard to communicate it to them, specially when these skills are our specialization. women are emotionally strong, know multi-tasking, know how to prioritize. as i complained to my husband, he also has as much complaints about me as I am to him. Our marriage was having a very difficult time, so I decided to try the opposite, I tried to find his strengths, started saying nice things from seldom, gradually increasing my emotional "deposits" to him. soon after, he did the same to me. When we had good amounts of "deposits" in our relationship, we had a deep conversation about our marriage and discovered that it was just the tip of the iceberg. We seeked help from a third party and it helped a lot but the bulk of work came from us to decide that both of us should do our part in the improvement of our relationship.
