will you fall in love with a priest?
By simplycza
@simplycza (1480)
Philippines
9 responses
@Seibertron (231)
• India
24 Mar 07
Its never a sin to fall in love. But your friend could jeopardize the priest's standing in the community and in his calling. And, she may bring the community's wrath on herself as well.It's not a sin for your friend to love him, but it is for him a sin to love her?
@simplycza (1480)
• Philippines
24 Mar 07
i believe so, until now priest are not entitled to have their family. good thing my friend knew it wasn't right. thanks for the repsonse.
@liranlgo (5752)
• Israel
24 Mar 07
well the answer is : yes
i have fallen in love with a much more complicated issue.
we can not control who we fall in love with
but we can be realistic ans tell ourself that that relationship would not last or could not take place.
there are priests that can get married
so what is her case?
if he can get merried she can go on with this ..don't you think cza?
@simplycza (1480)
• Philippines
24 Mar 07
hi friend, until now marrying a priest is not acceptable by society. I dont know in other country but here, it was still forbidden. i believe its hard to suppressed love once you feel it but if you knew that it wont last, at least be strong to face the truth since you knew the consequences. thank you.
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@simplycza (1480)
• Philippines
2 Apr 07
hello, good to know you are a kind of people who can dictate own hearts. thank you for replying.
@youdontsay (3497)
• United States
2 Apr 07
I would think that falling in love with your priest would be like falling in love with some hero or movie star - more infatuation than real romantic love. The relationship is not an equal one between a parishioner and a priest or pastor. So developing a romantic relationship would be based on something other than mutual feelings.
In professional circles it is called "transference" when a client, patient, or parishioner is "in love" with the professional. If it is handled properly, no one is hurt. The professional is ethically bound to maintain appropriate boundaries, so the responsibility is on the professional if there is any hard done.
Your friend was wise to move on.
@simplycza (1480)
• Philippines
3 Apr 07
thank you! Though I dont know how hard it is nor how deep her love is at least she has the courage to move on. thanks
@cdparazo (5765)
• Philippines
25 Mar 07
Love do come along without any reason and even if we don't want to. Feeling love for someone is always not wrong but doing something for that love is another matter especially if that someone is not free to express such love.
@simplycza (1480)
• Philippines
2 Apr 07
i agree with you. the priest is considered married, and it was not right to outgrow the feelings then/ thanks.
@simplycza (1480)
• Philippines
3 Apr 07
wow! and I understand you, it was hard to listen to the priest doing the sermons if you knew he was comitting sin. thank God , your cousin knew how to let him go. thanks
@gberlin (3836)
•
24 Mar 07
There is a book titled, 'The Thornbirds' and it was also made into a movie. It is about a priest who falls in love with a young lady. She like him also and eventually to go on a vacation together and sleep together. However, he cannot leave the church, or does he. You will have to read the book or watch the movie to find out!
@simplycza (1480)
• Philippines
24 Mar 07
"the Thornbirds"? well, i will check that book in the store. thanks.
@ankur_123_jaiswal (124)
• India
24 Mar 07
well it is very usual bcas she is a humanbeing and she can fall in love but its lovely that she controled her feelings. I would do the same.
@simplycza (1480)
• Philippines
24 Mar 07
hi friend, its not yet too late for her going back to her senses.. that's what i am thankful for. thanks,
@martinedy (38)
• Indonesia
11 Apr 07
To tell you the truth, I ever been a candidate of priest. I decided to go out from Seminary (a school for candidate of priest). Do you know why? because I am falling in love with a girl. So, please don't fall in love with a priest, even a candidates. It's very hard to choose: stay in Seminary as a priest (candidate) or married.
