r u short tempered person or no ?

If you are like me this is a life long challenge. I have a quick temper and take a relatively long time to relax after getting upset. For me it is a chemical imbalance, but you do not have to get that deep to understand a few things. 1) Try to take a minute, breathing deep helps in 2 ways: a) You may start to calm down b) You will not say anything too angry while you are just breathing and not talking. 2) Our reaction(s) to others are our own property. Yes some people intentionally or unintentionally "push our buttons".However, loosing control only broadcasts anger. Try to take control of your reactions, calm down, and consider why this particular thing is getting the best of you. The conclusion(s) may be quite different than the typical reaction I have which is to believe someone else is intentionally trying to tick me off. 3) Over time, try to understand the set of expectations that lead to anger. I find most of the time, I am just letting little things make me furious. It is rarely the facts of an issue that are the biggest problem, and my reaction(s) usually make things more complicated.

i guess im quick tempered lol. and i take a bit to relax afterwards. how does getting angry destroy brain cells???

There are times when I can be short tempered I haven't been this way in a good while though.