Need a break

you need to be more assertive with your husband. This is a common complaint that I hear from many young mothers, or mothers with young children. The fault is not only with your husband, who is a man after all, and not expected to be as emotinally intelligent, you need to present it to him in practical masculine terms. Be more assertive and say "Henry, I'm going out with my freinds to see a movie tonight, see you later!" or "Henry I'm going to the gym every tues and Thurs between 4 and 6 pm". You also need to keep a record of how much time each of you "works". Your working is the time you spend with the children. You might be surprised to find that you work twice as hard as him. He needs to know this as well.

Every six months or so, I take a mini "Mommy Vacation". I tell my husband that I am going to book two nights in a hotel for a weekend (notice I said tell, not ask him). The only negotiable point is which weekend would be best. Then I do it. Whether it's a local hotel with room service next to a big mall or it's a little motel with nothing but peace and quiet, it's my paradise for a weekend. He is not permitted to call me unless it is an emergency. I allow myself to forget I have a spouse and kids, and forget the names "Mommy" or "Hon". By the end of the weekend, I am ready to cope again (I'm admittedly high strung and not cut out for the stress of being a stay at home mom) and am a much nicer Mommy and wife. At first, my husband was dubious about the whole thing, since he couldn't see what I needed a vacation from. Apparently he must have thought my hair standing on end was normal or something. After I got back from the first time, though, he changed his tune. I was a refreshed woman, destressed, and (this is where he really saw the benefit) more affectionate. Try it. You won't regret a minute of it.

i think you husband can take care of your kids, so just make sure you have everything ready for him and just walk out that door! tell him you need a break on and give him the date when you need it! i am sure he can do it, but if you not force him he won't! andif you realy don't want to leave your kids with him, maybe you can go to a daycare and ask if you can leave your kids there sometimes, but only when you realy need it! and make sure you get that break, with or without the help of your husband!

Make your husband take care of the babies so that you can get a break! They are his kids too and he needs to share the responsibility. If he complains, oh well go ahead and go. All of us need some me time and it sounds as though you are passed the time of needing it. Go take a long hot bubble bath and make him deal with the kids. Some husbands don't know what it is like to be home all the time and be constantly at the call of kids. Let him learn!!