Tactile People - cuddly or flirty!

it doesnt mean you are flirting its just means you are caring and a very cuddly person. as longs as your partner doesnt mind then thats ok just continue showing your affection to people mummymo

I'm a big hugger and my wife is fine with it - she appreciate that it's just the way I am and always have been. I'm a Brit and was bought up in the NPDA school - No Public Demonstrations of Affection ( :-) ) - but it failed to rub off on me. It's rare that I don't hug my close friends when parting from them - if I've not seen them for a while they get a hug when we meet as well. This applies to the guys as well as the ladies. :-) There are a few of my friends who don't like to be hugged - they get the handshake - I have noticed, though, that it's rubbing off on quite a few of my friends and that it now takes us 5 minutes to say goodbye as a big hug-fest takes place. :-)

You can be tactile with me anyday, in fact I love the affection and people being tactile with me, it's warmth, I am a warm person and loved to be hugged, cuddled and touched (obviously not intimately) so what if some people consider being tactile as being overly flirtatious. You are what you are and if you are tactile people should respect it and accept it. I do tend to be tactile I even hug my friends when I see them male and female, I certainly don't see any harm it's just the way I greet people, I show warmth and I really care for my friends and the great way of showing it is through being tactile with them.

As long as it is someone I like I don't mind. What drives me crazy is when people I don't really like and they know it decides they want to give me hugs. Most times my hubby gets more hugs than I do but I have no worries

Well Mo I guess you either trust your other half or you don't.If I didn't trust him I wouldn't be here and I'm sure he feels the same way.I also am a hugger+kisser+back rubber etc and I do flirt a bit.I just like to joke with everybody...Like when I go to the feed store the owners father is there.I always give him a hug and say"Howdy Handsome,Am I still yer favorite gal?"He always has a huge grin and says that I am.He's been in and out of the hosp.His son says he brightens up after I stop by...I said"Yea,he's glad I left!"If my hubsband goes in Herbie always says"How's my girl(I'm 56),You taking good care of her?" I think that flirting that both parties know will go no farther is healthy.I also tell males and females that I think might feel bad,insecure something special to help them feel better. I do not think there is anything wrong with what you do....If others say there is then you know they probably do wrong and that's why they think everybody does. Be yourself and don't let anyone change you cause you are AWESOME the way you are Hugs

As the saying goes........Extreme of anything is bad.But don't you worry.In todays past paced and stressed life where emotions and affection has taken backstage,I think more people like you are required. Just don't bother about what people think ,so long as you and the one you hug welcome it,nothing else matters. Well,I am like you.:-D

Just ask my hubby my friend , I am the very same , maybe thats why you and him get on so well together , a younger version of me , We have lots of friends you and I so doesn't that speak for itself , anyone who knows you loves you for who you are , don't you ever dare change xx

No it is not wrong as long as I would know it is harmless lol But yes I am like you with my Family and Friends. I never got Cuddles as child from my Mum and I always said that my Kids would and they did and still do very much. My Friends to as that is just my Way of showing how much they mean to me. Love and Hugs to you

Some people like to hug, others don't, I have two female friends who hug a lot, and it can be fun. That's as far as it goes, to most people it means friendship nothing more, however there are always a few evil people out there who like to spread nasty rumours about hugging etc. I have been married over 30 years and to me a hug is exactly that - a hug, not an invitation to anything else.

My famly has never been the touchy feely type, so I can understand where people are coming from when they don't understand or think of you as flirty. However, I understand your side of things for sure, and I know that you are just being friendly and caring, and I don't see anything wrong with it at all. However, it would make me feel a bit jealous and confused if my partner were to be touchy feely with other people, depending on what people and the circumstances. I guess that I'm just a bit of the jealous type, lol. I honestly think that you're doing a wonderful thing by being so open and caring and loving to give out hugs, though!! The world needs more people like that. I'm just sad that I myself didn't grow up learning to be like that, in a way.

Cuddling is something that I love to do. It's something that I find far more affectionate and warm then a kiss, or any other sort of physical contact between two people who love each other, obviously, the contact limited by their type of realtionship. However, accusing people like me, you and the general affectionate ones of being flirty is something that's really wrong, and i guess, not the exact way to judge the personality of anyone. As for me, I'd love my partner to be like this. Nuthing could be more better.

Cuddling is great and I do that to my relatives and my close friends and nobody tells me I am flirting. That was awful accusation to you mummymo because you do that in a nicest way without malice in mind but some misunderstood it and that was not fair to you. Being a cuddly person is a mark of a joyous person and that for me is a good sign of being friendly and affectionate. Don't mind that person who accuse you maybe he/she is a loner lol!!!!

Hi mummy… I don’t think It's wrong to be cuddly. I personally liked being hugged by friends that I'm very close too or much more my loved ones. I can't stand to have a day without getting a hug from someone that I love. I do meet people who are cuddly even on meeting them for the first time. If It's of the same gender then It's ok that she hugs me- but if It's a guy I get uncomfortable. I'm sort of discreet with touchy men upon first meeting. But generally I don’t think that being cuddly is flirty. Although I do know some girls, who use this to indeed flirt up with guys. Actually, I do have friends who use their being cuddly to flirt with guys and they keep telling me I should try it as well because it works… hahaha… I don’t know, I guess I just don’t want people getting the wrong message from me. Because we’ll never know how other people think- for some being cuddly is really sweet and they have no malice or whatsoever in it. But for others, especially the “conservative- reserved” ones, they may mistake it for flirting. So I just try to play it safe with the people around me. Have a great day!

actually , if I married to a woman loves to give everybody hugs , it will be the worst thing I have. hello , there is a human right there you hug . you asked me for my opinion , I don't like my wife to hug other men . But I think this goes to the socity culture . My community refuses such things . and my advice is , if your man doesn't like this, don't do this whatever .

It's odd isn't it? Some people I can hug without thinking about it, others give off a do not hug vibe, lol. I often send people hugs online too, it shows affection, caring and friendship I suppose. I love to be hugged by most of my friends and often have a hug when we meet up.

well ilike that kind of people.so affectionate and friendly..i wont be bother if my partner is like that coz he does already...

I'm like this with people that I'm really close to. I have some issues with touch, so hugging people I'm not really close to isn't something I would do, but my closest friends are always being hugged by me. For a while it was a habit to greet a particular friend of mine by picking him up and spinning him around in hug. =P As long as your partner is happy and you are happy, I don't think it should matter what other people think. Unless your friends are uncomfortable with the attenion I guess. I know I've had a lot of people whose business it wasn't get onto me about how I am with my close friends, and my husband has defended me on the issue. Ultimately, it's you, your friends, and your partner who have a say in this, and everyone else should just butt out.

I am very tactile also. I like to hug people and have to back off when people's body language is so rigid you know they have never been hugged since childhood! I think it's great. And best of all is when you're in the business district and you see a friend and hug them instead of shaking hands. There should be more of it I say!

well nothing wrong with being tactile but some people might misinterpret it..hehe. sometimes you dont really know where to draw the line especially if you dont know the person.me, im not a tactile person with the exception of course towards my late mom and my pet cat.hehe.

Hey! Finally I met someone who's just as affectionate as I am. Whee! Lol I like to give people hugs too, especially when they look down. For teenagers, that's not too bad. Actually people need hugs to cheer them up. So they won't think of anything else. Personally I think there's nothing wrong hugging people to show that you're affectionate and that you care. I love those kind of people, and so I don't mind people touching me or hugging me. Don't be bothered about what others think; if your partner trusts you, there's nothing wrong about it.