How would u feel if u ask your best friend of 15yrs could u room w/ her until u
By ladyambi
@ladyambi (80)
United States
March 24, 2007 7:57pm CST
get on your feet. A co-worker went through very hard times(disabled from car accident,house forclosed). Her best friend only lived with her 5 yr old daughter,but her reaction told her that her best friend did not want her there. She could take care of herself, but on eviction day she needed a place to go to. They remained friends, she told her she understands and move on.
A year later her best friend mentions that she suggested to her boyfriend that he can move in and not to worry about bills, because she can handle it at least until he FIND A JOB. My coworker said she didn't stress it, but it did hurt some because she only knew him a short time and he had somewhere to go. He didn't ask her, she suggested he stay. In the end he never moved with her, he stayed put and we are another year later and she is still waiting for him to move with her. As far as the co worker life is still rough. She is permantely disable from the accident. She's an adult so she made a way.
2 responses
@Stringbean (1273)
• United States
25 Mar 07
It is hard to figure people's motives out sometimes. Also, people can change their opinions in a year so maybe that is what happened.
Maybe she was having some financial trouble of her own at the time and felt that she could afford to have another person living with her. Raising a child is a big expense for a single mother without taking on an additional person in the house.
I wouldn't hold it against her, but I don't think I would be as close as I was before. I'm glad you are doing okay.
Also, it may be that she is interested in getting married, since she seems pretty interested in this boyfriend. Perhaps she thought that she could get a boyfriend easier if no one else but her daughter was living there.
@ladyambi (80)
• United States
25 Mar 07
Her friend had no financial trouble. She made really good money. She didn't need her to support her she just needed a place to stay until her place was ready. My thing is my coworker used to let her best friend and her child stay with her when it was rough for her. So now the shoe is on the other foot and her friend is doing good and she said find somewhere else to go. We took up a collection at the job to help her with the deposit.
@Stringbean (1273)
• United States
25 Mar 07
I think it is good that you and your other friends took up a collection for her and that she is making it okay now.
@coolseeds (3919)
• United States
25 Mar 07
I am not sure if I would want someone who was disabled living with me if they were not a family member. I am very busy and don't want to sacrifice what is going on in my life to accommodate them.
I have a landscaping company as well as an online store. I want these to pay for me when I am old. If I had to give up 5 hours a day... I might still be working when I am old.
I am not a cold person but I have to take care of me before I can take care of someone else.
Why didn't the disabled person go to a family member's house?
